I feel so bad for you. This cold spell is just awful and to not have some warmth in your home makes it worse. Your mom sounds like my mom with her OCD and other issues that she refuses to get help for and as she ages she is getting worse.
Not right your mom yells at you because you want some warmth. Here we are supposed to have a little less cold for maybe 2 days and then the really bad cold spell is back. I don't normally, but this year I'm gonna start counting down the days until spring.

Well at least ranting about it and getting angry about it helped me take something action. I just got so mad and fed up that I turned the heat up lol. It caused a big fight, but I told her I will keep monitoring it so it will help calm her nerves a bit. It also helped me think of other ideas to take positive action.

Thank you, mystie. My mom has always been mentally ill, but mostly high functioning. I am pretty sure she is has borderline personality disorder, OCD, amongst other issues. It has gotten really bad since my dad passed away. For a while I didn't make the connection because they didn't have a good relationship. I just get so lost and I often don't know how to cope.

i dont want to scare you, but some furnace advice i learned the hard way: best to try, somehow, to get the furnace fixed now, cause eventually that leak will rust out parts inside----i learned that the hard way.

other hard lesson i learned: leaking furnace water on floor causes termites to show up; termites love the wet.

so, its best to crank up the heat a bit, contact some govt agency to help fix the furnace, and do something about water on floor to avoid termites damaging the place.

my cats and me spent some nights under an open sleeping bag after the furnace completely gave out.

i also know what its like to have pipes burst cause of no heat.

Hang in there I wish you had a space heater, my mom is an alcoholic and wouldn't use the heat two winters ago, my little sister was living in abasement apt with her I bought her a heated blanket, then moved her in with me before last winter. Please stay warm! Xo

Hi Blue
How are you doing now? Are you still having to sit in the cold? I hope things are getting better and you took Penn's advice. Hugs GB

Hi GB,

I was able to get through to my mom about her fears so I am not sitting in the cold now. :)

I do need to call about assistance to get it repaired or replace. I actually sent in an application a little while back, but they counted income we had when my dad was alive that we no longer have since he passed in 2012. I pointed out their mistake and they told me to submit documents with proof of income (which is at least the 3rd time I've done so). I submitted it ASAP, but I have not heard back from them and they have not rectified the situation. I contacted them twice more and still nothing. I found another number for them this weekend so I am hoping I have better luck or I am just going to have to brave my anxiety and go there in person lol.

You will do just fine if you have to talk with them in person. Your health is at stake here. Hugs GB

I am sorry to hear what you are going through. It is unforunate that since the basis for OCD is usually fear and subsequently the desire for control, it is very upsetting that when the person feels they are losing that control, they may become either angry or panicky.
I am not sure how to deal with it. I have dealt with family members who have this issue and I have usually chosen avoidance. I wish you luck, and it sounds like from your last post that you have made some progress on this particular issue at least:)