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Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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Jormungandr 04/20/2009

with my parents. Well, he's their doctor and I just drove them there. We were waiting in those open waiting area near one of the main entrances of the medical buidling. I was reading the paper and the morning news was on the TV. People were coming in for their appointments, one of them was a young woman. When people walked by, I might see who they were if my eyes happened to be at the top of an article. They were when she walked by, but I didn't get more than cursory view. However, I did notice that my father was looking at her and then noticed he was looking at me at the corner of my eye. I think he was expecting me to look at her or show an interest in her. I just kept reading the paper. Uhm...what part of I'll never marry needs explaining?

deleted_user 04/20/2009

Sorry,

this is a bit cryptic for me..!??

deleted_user 04/20/2009

Not so cryptic for me. I will never marry either. It seems a waste of time, money, and legal effort. You wouldn't believe how relieved I was when my brother and his wife provided my mom with a male grandchild. I'm off the hook! No children, no marriage. This is not part of my depression, this is how I have always wanted it. I completely understand never wanting to get married. Unfortunately, most of society still sees it as the culmination of the best romantic relationship of one's life.

To hell with society. Be happy, however you have to do it.

Jormungandr 04/20/2009

I'm the only member of my generation in my family that is not married or in a relationship. Even my second cousins are now marrying. Thus, what happened here was a young woman happened to walk in and my father was looking to see if I was looking at her, i.e. did I find her attractive, etc. Hoiwever, I've made it clear that I have no desire to get marry, but looking, at least in my family, means to show an interest, which I don't.

deleted_user 04/20/2009

Oh, i hear ya. I'm 30, the old maid of the family. I get you completely on this. I think you can talk til blue in the face and unless it's what people want to hear, they'll try to counterpoint you.

Hear's the scary statistic about marriage. 50/50. That means half of them LAST :p

Jormungandr 04/21/2009

I was in a similar situation, Johanna. I was the last of the line until my uncle had twin sons. Up to that point, there was even talk of an arranged marriage.

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