It will pass. Xoxo
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Thanks Kasandra. For those of you thinking that this is my own fault so why I am so angry, you're right. It's my own fault and yet I am still angry for some reason

Hugs Heidi. Hang in there.

Thanks mollgirl. It helps just having people listen.

Just wanted to add that I am starting to calm down. Thanks everyone.

It might be useful to talk to your sister in law about a plan to reduce time spent on the video games.

Regarding the anger. I am glad you are calming down a bit. But you should try not to beat yourself up because you have a long term condition. You have a hard job keeping things together and your son's addiction to video games is also his responsibility as much as yours as he is now an adult.

Work with the family and your son to find a good solution that suit all.

My two cents...

Do you mean "addict" like, it interferes with his school/work? or addict like that is his only interest? If it's the second one, I wouldn't worry about it so much. At 18, he's hopefully getting ready for all sorts of new experiences. College, a new job, or a new love interest could be enough to break the habit.

And (I don't mean this harshly) speaking as a daughter, please don't try to parent over facebook. My mother routinely sends me angry texts messages and I'm tellin' ya, it doesn't work. Sit face to face, or talk on the phone, or, if it's really difficult, hand write a letter. Stay calm, open, and be consistent. That's what works.

I don't mean to downplay your anger because it's completely valid. But expressing it like that to your son is probably not going to fix the situation.

Good luck and blessings.

It's frustrating because you want him to have a good life, and that's a good thing in that you are wanting better for him. It means you love and care about him and his life. So don't hate on yourself, we all do the best we can.

I know its hard but one of your tasks is to decide what to do now. That may mean seeing if you can introduce him into other things, see if he is depressed or having problems, or try to set limits. I would try to see how he is doing.

It's good to read your anger has gone down. Is your son still attending school or will he be on his own soon?

Things in life change and so could the rules in your home. It might not be possible to control what happens outside of that but you have a right to change the expectations where you are.

I'm lost on what just happened there, it dropped my last paragraph.

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If you decide to make the changes it would be a good time to introduce him to new things in replace of the games.

Thanks everyone. We have found some common ground. He has agreed to work on simple projects just nothing too complicated which is what we were talking about before. As far as his addiciton to games, no it does not interfere with school. Also he will be volunteering for the Humane Society once he completes his last training.