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BrooklynnMB
BrooklynnMB

I haven't felt this bad since 2015. I hate it.  I know exactly what's going on, I'm no stranger to depression but I can't get the motivation to get out of bed today even though I know it would help. It's 2:30 p.m. and I'm still in bed.  My husband jokes that I'm a grizzly bear. He knows about my depression.  I don't know if he doesn't realize how bad I feel or if he just doesn't know how to handle it. 


A coworker said something interesting to me the other day.  She said her daughter had told her she thought she was depressed.  Her response to her daughter was you're not depressed because you still make it to work. 


I realized that most people have no idea how much I'm struggling.  On the outside I put on a happy face and seem put together.  Sometimes I just wish i could scream "I'm not ok!" Because I'm not.  But, I still make it to work and appear successful and happy.  I may be successful but right now, I'm not happy. I can't even get out of bed on my days off. 


cottontail
cottontail
eI totally know what you mean. some of us put on a face for the outside world. i have seen me laughing and joking at work and feel like walking under a bus when i walk out of the door. i think sometimes it is easier to think about other people and it is only when i am alone that the depression hits me.
sometimes we just need to rest and nurture ourselves. depression is an illness and sometimes it just gets too much and we cant force ourselves to just get on with it.
I feel that i am a functioning depressive as i go to work in fact never miss a day and i continue to look after my family and others.
Be kind to yourself , is there anything that has happened ? am here if you want to share.
Take care and i hope that tomorrow is a better day for you
jannytheresa
jannytheresa
Hi
What I have been told in the past, is that the third Monday of January is statistically considered the most depressing day of the year. No motivation here either.
Hope that you feel better soon
AlienV
AlienV
I know what you mean about a mask. When someone asks me how I am, I too want to scream. I hate the question but I find myself wanting to be honest some days.

Maybe your husband is trying to use humor to help you feel better? That’s how I see it.
Chloe2436
Chloe2436
Here I am, I am another one who has long suffered with depressionn and has been very bad lately. I understand your frustration with people not understanding. I have long considered myself a "high functioning depresso" - I can function on the job and feel like hell inside. I am glad you reached out to this group. I've not been writing on here for long, but so far seems like a nice group. Hang in there. I'm right here with you. Warm regards, Chloe
rianbooyer
rianbooyer
the statement "your not depressed you still make it to work" is bull. I have wrestled with depression my whole life and know there are different levels. She shouldn't dismiss her daughters depression that could make it worse.

It is hard to get going many days so i know exactly what you mean. I am working from home like many people. If my boss's only knew I am still wearing my PJ's most days...lol

I don't have the ability to put on a happy face my mother always told me to put one on and that it would make things better but i never had the ability.
Anna1212
Anna1212
I understand not wanting to get out of bed. I either get up because i have to go to work or because my back starts to hurt from my crappy mattress. It's good you are still working even if you have to fake your way through it. I'm going through the same thing right now except I've taken some time off due to depression and it scares me because I worry that I won't have the drive or whatever to go back. I just feel I'm sinker deeper into the pit.
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