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Sick of moms problems-No time to learn to be posit

Edger
Edger
I an depressed. Mom has one problem after another. I need to learn to be positive for my own self. But the constant problems and her asking me to get stuff for her or make phone calls. She has difficult time hearing on phone even with special phone. She doesnt have much else to talk about also. I am a little nervice about traveling to see her this Saturday or next for her birthday. Things will probably be ok on the drive. Most of the time it is. Though i only see her a few times a year. I really coud use some positive thinking. My normal thinking is negative. How am I supposed to learn to be positive when problems keep happening?

Barbara
Community LeaderThePepperMan
ThePepperMan
I know it is hard (I lost my mother last August, and dad is not very needy yet), but try not to let your mother's problems become your problems. That is not saying you should turn down all her requests for help, rather treat them as a customer service request. Let her know when you can work on them, and don't agonize over them.
Misssy2
Misssy2
Barbara..I feel the same about my oldest son. So..I know exactly what your saying. I have major depression and his problems dive me deeper.

Act as if....you are positive. I liked Peppermans advice....its so hard not to acgnozie over them thou when your so depressed...I lose sleep over it.

Someone once said..they won't be here forever...so we have to try and enjoy what we can and leave the rest....
Desigol1979
Desigol1979
My Gran's the same. She is sitting on a small fortune with Granddad's land and she said she, "Has no money!" God love her, she grew up with nothing and will always maintain she has nothing.
MMP1
MMP1
Both my parents were very negative people when they were older. I would "zone out" and daydream as they talked or complained about things and just say "uh huh" at random intervals. I guess you could say I didn't internalize anything they said. I would keep in mind that they won't be here forever, and also try to engage them in a "fun" thing like a comedy movie or a card game when I could. I was blessed that I didn't have to run errands for them though - that would have been difficult especially because they're divorced and lived in separate cities. They both passed away about three years ago and I miss them even if they were grumps. I think there's a support group here on DS that's called Caring for Aging Parents you might want to check into.