I don't know, have you had therapy and they've said that this is what causes you to do whatever you do that pushes people away? If so what did they say is a good way to deal? Just wondering.

I deleted my own husband from my facebook page because he threatened to post something I found juvenille to post there lol. I think you can have a social life without facebook crap. I have had the tendancy to push people away puposely in my eyes to "protect" them more so than myself because I know I dont do well with intimacy at all and all I can tell you is if you enjoy other peoples company then it would benefit you to discover how to change your reactions to whatever events cause you to "emotionally" abuse someone and therapy is a good start.

Being a pragmatist, I would say that you should avoid 'close' relationships UNTIL you get a handle on avoiding abuse. I mean emotionally abusing people is not a good thing .. for you or the 'victim'.

That ends one problem. Then, of course, the idea is to correct that behavior ... whatever it takes .... so that you can have a normal life. That probably means professional help. I THINK it is better to have ONE problem (SAD) than 2 or more problems (SAD/abusiveness).

Minimization ... more or less, is the idea.

I don't know but I think it would be wrong to completely isolate yourself. It's important to have at least one person you can talk to that isn't a friend, like a Dr or a counsellor perhaps? Maybe even a social anxiety support group?

I would guess you might find it easier to avoid making new friendships for the time being, but with proper support it doesn't mean that would be forever

You have 2 choices either get to the bottom of what causes you to do this or yes stop being social if it means you are going to end up hurting others. If I was you I get help because living anti-socially is no way to live. Peace.

after reading your post, I have to dig a little deeper into my life right. I have never really had a problem socializing but lately I seem to be pushing people away, whether I am too clingy or just to nice. I too feel that i want to close my facebook and jus tbe alone. However being alone is not the goal here. The goal is to figure out what is causing these feelings and deak with them.

maybe you should try to be close with your loved ones first.be around them, see if that makes you feel better.and then let see how it goes.i think you are lucky because you make the call.me, i just feel shunned.