Depression Support Group

Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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MonaP 10/19/2011

I am 27 years old. i suffer from dysthymia and borderline personality. I take Geodon, Trazodone, and Pristiq. I go to therapy too. My illness are under control. I would like to know if it is a good idea to have a baby in the future. I'm thinking about having a baby in the next year or two. Any advice?

Friend19 10/19/2011

I honestly think you are the only person who really knows the answer to that question. If you say everything is under control then I would think it's fine. How would you do while pregnant tho? I know most medications are not recommended for pregnant woman.

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deleted_user 10/19/2011

Like what Friend19 said, I think you'd be the only one who would know that answer. However, you might do well to consult your doctor(s) as well, because they might be able to help as well.

ThePepperMan 10/19/2011

I agree with the people here. Talk to your doctor, find out if your meds are compatible with pregnancy. Being pregnant and then being a parent of a baby can be very stressful.

deleted_user 10/19/2011

no I don't think you should, purely based on the fact that you asked a bunch of strangers to advise you. NO NO NO

deleted_user 10/19/2011

As most people have probably said:
ONLY you, can decide if its time to do that.

deleted_user 10/19/2011

Based upon a recent babysitting experience I would have to answer no for now. I went through two babies, but that was before any depression or other afflictions. My babysitting experience reminded me that it is much like driving with no shocks on a very bumpy road, you can smile and say "It's okay" but your body still feels it and will eventually react. Give it time, a lot of time.

deleted_user 10/19/2011

I to agree with what MOST are saying here. Just talk with your doctors and whoever else you may see, and go from there. Just make sure to get ALL the information possible on you meds and pregnancy.

WanderingVet 10/19/2011

Hey Mona. All kinds of people have babies. It is a HUGE job and responsibility. I pity those who have babies and can't deal with it. That does not mean you can't.

But it makes the point that you need to know the reality of 'it all'. The joy is immeasruable I would think (I have no children .. sadly).

The work is tremendous. The responsibility is tremendous ... their health, safety, opportunities, education, financial security ... just to name a few. And it lasts (legally) 18 years in most states.

I don't know where you can go to get one simple answer .. but talking to your doctor(s) would be a VERY good idea.

I do not know your marital status .. but in my opinion, a baby needs a good Father as much as it needs a good Mother.

"dysthymia and borderline personality" are not enough to say no .. in my opinion ... but there is more to the whole picture than your mental health ... it COULD be a factor ... I would not know. At least discuss that part with your doctors.

Good luck to you. Give it plenty of thought.

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