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I had a good Thanksgiving, then I met my family for dinner on Sunday. It was terrible. My mom just sat there and didn't move or say anything really and my brother showed up really late, like 40 or 45 minutes. I was feeling fine and the whole thing just brought me way down. I ordered on time because I just felt like I needed to. I just didn't feel I could wait, cause I had to work the next day.
My mom just kept attacking me and making tons of digs. I just really didn't get it. I never say anything to her because she is such a b****. I have started to actually hate her. Nothing I ever say or do is fine or right. Then my brother mentioned that she didn't look like she was having a good time, so he started crying. It was horrible. He spent half the time talking about how he really thought he was going to die, how he was going to have a heart attack. It didn't make sense. Every time I get together with him, he talks about how he is going to have a heart attack, how weak he is, or how he is probably going to die, or has migranes. It's ridiculous. By the time I am finished with all of them, I feel so horrible I can't stand it. I want to move away.
I went to work today and set my mind on having a better day. Well yeah, that didn't work. Unexpectedly, my boss came in. She was really pissed off. Things have been going fine, it's been generally 'no news is good news,' I've mostly been enjoying the teaching, and today, right after Thanksgiving, she comes in full six-gun barrel all out, grabbing books off ot the shelves and looking mad. Then says come to my office. I get there and she tells me I am teaching to the lowest common denominator. I was so mad I could not believe it. It's an accelerated school and there is tons of work. I actually had parents say it's too fast.
Well, someone called and said it wasn't challenging enough. I really could not believe that. There are twice the assignments, at least, from the other school. She came in like that just because someone called. So now she is going to be coming in and making me change everything. I taught for years and really did fine, not needing help with instruction and all of that. I was just dumbfounded. I spent a year out of work and I can't imagine going back to thaat. Things seemed to be ok, the last eval was really great, and she told me that I was doing a great job. This was very sudden. I don't know what to think or feel.
My mom just kept attacking me and making tons of digs. I just really didn't get it. I never say anything to her because she is such a b****. I have started to actually hate her. Nothing I ever say or do is fine or right. Then my brother mentioned that she didn't look like she was having a good time, so he started crying. It was horrible. He spent half the time talking about how he really thought he was going to die, how he was going to have a heart attack. It didn't make sense. Every time I get together with him, he talks about how he is going to have a heart attack, how weak he is, or how he is probably going to die, or has migranes. It's ridiculous. By the time I am finished with all of them, I feel so horrible I can't stand it. I want to move away.
I went to work today and set my mind on having a better day. Well yeah, that didn't work. Unexpectedly, my boss came in. She was really pissed off. Things have been going fine, it's been generally 'no news is good news,' I've mostly been enjoying the teaching, and today, right after Thanksgiving, she comes in full six-gun barrel all out, grabbing books off ot the shelves and looking mad. Then says come to my office. I get there and she tells me I am teaching to the lowest common denominator. I was so mad I could not believe it. It's an accelerated school and there is tons of work. I actually had parents say it's too fast.
Well, someone called and said it wasn't challenging enough. I really could not believe that. There are twice the assignments, at least, from the other school. She came in like that just because someone called. So now she is going to be coming in and making me change everything. I taught for years and really did fine, not needing help with instruction and all of that. I was just dumbfounded. I spent a year out of work and I can't imagine going back to thaat. Things seemed to be ok, the last eval was really great, and she told me that I was doing a great job. This was very sudden. I don't know what to think or feel.
As far as work goes, you are at the mercy of your boss. Try to go with the flow, you know things will get back to normal. I know teaching is a hard job, people dont realize, its more that the teaching, its all the dealings with parents, politics......Good luck, try to stay strong, we need good teachers.
It is a shame to go to work and be attacked like that. Maybe your boss had a bad holiday! My daughter went to one of those accelerated classed. I agree with you, it was twice the work load. Maybe Mr. it is not challenging should put his child in a class for children who are genius.
Sorry your holiday was so messed up and your return to work. I hope things get better for you.
Keep coming back, ok? how about a hugg?
That dinner with your family sounds horrible! Your brother seems to have some problems, hypochondria or narcissism. And if your mother is mean, well, I think staying away from the both of them is the best thing you could do for yourself.
As for your boss, I bet she was embarrassed and hurt by the parent who complained. (And maybe she had a bad dinner with her family over the weekend, too! ;)
So she takes it out on you, even though she knows you're doing a great job. It's kind of like the guy who gets yelled at by his boss, then he goes home and kicks the dog.
Since this just happened today, maybe give her a day or two to calm down, then go in and talk to her about the changes. Write down the points you made here, and see if you can get her to relax and not make these sweeping changes.
If you go in with a really cooperative attitude of "we have a problem, let's work together on a solution" maybe you can get her to agree to one or two small changes, instead of changing everything.