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MorningSadness00 12/12/2010

My friend Holly's mom passed away this morning.
She passed away from Breast Cancer. She had put herself into Hospice care. I feel so bad for her daughter, she is only 19 years old . I talked to her mother a lot and i was very fond of her. My heart aches for her daughter. I don't know what to say to her.. It hurts, its almost like i can feel her sadness and pain. I really wish that she hadnt died. But i know now she is in a better place and is no longer suffering....
This is really what killed me inside though... this was posted on her moms facebook wall, posted by her daughter ::

"My mommy passed away peacefully this morning, with me by her side. I figured it would be easiest to inform everyone through here.. As much as I will miss her, I am glad that she is no longer suffering. Thank you all for your prayers "

I seriously can not get over this. I am going to miss her... a lot. I am going to miss her getting on facebook, and trying to help me through tough situations. She was such a wonderful strong woman.... this is going to eat me up inside... I feel so sad...and empty. If i feel this bad i cant even imagine how her daughter feels. :'( Poor girl, she must be torn apart...

Please keep my friend Holly in your thoughts and prayers as this is going to be a long and heartbreaking road for her.

Thanks for listening

deleted_user 12/12/2010

So sorry for your loss and your friend Hollys' loss.....losing a mom I think is about the hardest loss of all with the exception perhaps of a child....I lost my Mom on Valentines day of last year and it is still so very hard and I am not a 19 year old kid just starting out in the world. I cannot imagine how hard this is going to be for her but I believe she is one lucky girl to have you for a friend....she and you will both be in my prayers.

Hugs
xx

MorningSadness00 12/12/2010

Thank you so much, Jules65.

I love your display picture by the way, my one year old loves mickey mouse. :)

deleted_user 12/12/2010

I will keep you friends family and you in my prayers. I am so sorry for your loss. When i lost my grandmother the pain was so much I didnt think it would go away she died from pancreas cancer. I know how you feel as she helped you. Anytime times were rough, i called her and she would just say the exact thing i needed to here. It was hard but i just focused on the fact that shes no longer in pain. And that she lives though me , by remembering and in my heart.

deleted_user 12/12/2010

I am so sorry for your loss and you friends loss.

When I was 14, my friends dad died of lung cancer. He was a lovely man and it was awful.

A few years later, another of my friends mother passed away who I was close to.

Me and some friends went to the funeral and walked 5 miles back along a motorway in the boiling summer heat so we could get home after the funeral. It was a brutal trip back but I would do it over and over again just to say goodbye.

I hope you can think of the good times soon.

Much love to you and her family at this horrible time xx

deleted_user 12/12/2010

I'm very sorry to hear about your loss... and will pray for the family. I believe even after someone passes they are still with us when we need them... only in a different way. Cancer sucks :( Takes away too many good people.

deleted_user 12/12/2010

My heart goes out to her....I am 19 as well. I cannot imagine living without my mom especially with what I am going through. My heart dropped after I read this. I will start praying for Holly every night, she will need it..

deleted_user 12/12/2010

I will keep all of you in my thoughts and prayers....It is so verymhard to lose someone that we love.Hopefully you can hang on to the good times.She is at peace now and now you have a Guardian Angel.

deleted_user 12/12/2010

sorry about the spelling,so very hard

deleted_user 12/12/2010

I am sorry for your loss and your friend's loss. You will both be in my thoughts and prayers. (hugs)

beachside 12/12/2010

I am very sorry to hear about your loss and friends loss. I will keep you, your friend and her family in my thoughts and prayers. Sending you, your friend and family peace and comfort during this difficult time. Many hugs.

Her love will always be watching over her family and friends.

deleted_user 12/12/2010

I am so sorry for your loss and your friends loss of her mother. I know how painful it is to have someone with cancer in the family. I will send many prays to you all! Be strong for you and her!

SmileyBear 12/12/2010

I am also very sad to hear of this. I know it comes with a lot of pain for those who have shared love with her.

I will say prayers for all of you to heal and that peace will come to you all.

That's a beautiful baby on your avi. Looks like you are learning some things about life. Every day is a gift, Darlin.

You said you don't know what to say to your friend. You expressed yourself very well here. If you don't know what to say, but you are hurting for Holly and you will miss her mom, say that to her. Just be honest. She might need someone to cry with or on.

Don't be afraid to reach out. Friends need each other in times like this.

SmileyBear 12/12/2010

One more thing:

Read kriskris's post about Elizabeth Edwards. I don't know if you are familiar with her. Her husband ran for president twice. She stood by his side. She developed breast cancer, went into remission and it came back. The cancer had spread. She is also a mother who lost a child.

Very inspiring. You'll know what to say:

http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Depression/forum/11099094-elizabeth-edwards

deleted_user 12/12/2010

So sorry :(. I lost my Mother to breast cancer too-heartbreaking. I know what helped me the most, was just simply receiving nice messages of support from people, especially after the initial loss, people still remembering a month or so down the line, and showing that they care and that they're thinking of you, this was so helpful and healing. I hoe you and the daughter, and all involved receive this kind of love and support and can offer it to each other. BEST WISHES FOR U ALL. PS-I know too, Mother's Day is a particularily sad time for me, when people remember to send me a note on that day, I am always very touched & grateful. XO

MorningSadness00 12/12/2010

Thanks everyone for your responses. I bought her a bracelet from the store thingsremembered, Its has a heart shaped charm, and on the front of the charm it has her moms name and her mom bday and death date :( and on the back it says, "she will always be with you".... I hope she likes it....

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