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Self talk

dyinginside35
dyinginside35

When it comes to self esteem, what is best to say to yourself? Men on here, like 30s and so on, what do you think is most important to look 4 in a girl? Im trying to gain self esteem and confidence. 

Ghostdancer
Ghostdancer
Fire in her eyes of her confidence in herself and loyalty and love of friends in the oldest and wisest of ways.
billy1
billy1
i like personality that she likes to talk i do unfriend people who dnt talk to me.i like that a girl is kind sweet to everyone.that she doesnt act stuck up and that doesnt think shes all that or better than others .i like that she simply is very loving and affectionate person.
ThereIsStillHope
ThereIsStillHope
Morals and values!! And definitely confidence. A girl that takes care of herself. Be the person who you're looking for is looking for.
sam445
sam445
definitely personality, looks only take you so far in a relationship!
mtiger87
mtiger87
First of all, I’m sorry that you’re dealing with self-esteem/confidence issues. As someone who has personally dealt with these issues off and on throughout my life, I certainly understand your concerns regarding this issue. This issue is one that many have dealt with at some point in their lives, and it can be tricky figuring out how to overcome it.

As to what you should say to yourself, I’m not sure that there is a “magic” word or words that will transform how you’re feeling. The way I have dealt with this issue is to constantly remind myself that many people love me just the way I am, and if I’m worth something to them, then I’m indeed worth something.

Now, when it comes to what to look for in a woman, most guys, especially those over 30, are really just looking for someone who shares common interests and someone who will listen to them.

The best advice I could give you regarding all of what you are asking about is to just be yourself. You are special, unique, and have a lot to offer. Just be you!
Punk
Punk
trust.