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saying goodbyes

OLDBIKER
OLDBIKER
Why do people here on DS leave and not say goodbye to those who are "friends". You message back and forth, get to know the people, share things, chat, etc. then, they leave, close their accounts and, you are left with nothing but an empty hole in your heart. I really don't understand.
deleted_user
deleted_user
i dont know why...

there are some people who are just not good at goodbyes i guess
deleted_user
deleted_user
you and me both! it may not be real life friends but just out of courtesy and respect for your friends on ds you should at least leave a post or something to say you are going! xxx
Community LeaderWanderingVet
WanderingVet
Just have to remember people here are facing all kinds of circumstances. If you can imagine it, it is probably happening to some.

Can't be too surprised about anything here.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Different friendships to different people mean different things at different times.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I agree, it is sad and sometimes hurtful!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Many of the people here are having very hard times. There are many reasons why this may happen. Some good and some bad. Just try to remember the good things and pray that they are ok and will be back.
deleted_user
deleted_user
that has happened to me also and it hurts but i try and keep them in my thoughts and prayers. i think about them and hope that they are ok.but it does still hurt though
meandthebeast
meandthebeast
I think it really hurts also.. hugs you..
deleted_user
deleted_user
Because they dont feel loved or that anyone likes them
deleted_user
deleted_user
or that they are funny enough or that they will be missed anyway so why bother saying goodbye or that anyone will notice and it all hurts, or ppl will think you want them to fuss you to change their mind orppl will get even more bored and fed up withthem, or they never felt they belonged
deleted_user
deleted_user
Cuz it;s the internet.

Very impersonal.

Who knows who or what that person really was. Just cuz you think you know, doesn't mean you actually DO.
deleted_user
deleted_user
i have to admit to being guilty of doing just that. i left because i could not cope at that moment. i was chatting to someone who i thot was a friend and the whole time they were cutting themselves and not telling me till the end. depression makes me vulnerable and unable to cope with stuff like that. i had to step out and look after myself.
thats my reasons anyways. hope that sheds a little light why some one might. but im back and i feel bad i didnt say goodbye to everyone.
deleted_user
deleted_user
i.m really me daisy lou. why are you always so suspicious
deleted_user
deleted_user
Friends do it in the 'real world' too. They just disappear from your life without word. Some just stop phoning.
ZAZAS
ZAZAS
I don't understand that myself, have several holes in my heart as well.