Depression Support Group

Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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Valoo
Valoo

Hi. I'm new here, so I'll just jump right in. I feel ignored by nearly everyone important in my life. And when I'm not, I'm being yelled at to "quit complaining" or I get "you're life is better than mine". As if that's supposed to magically make my own problems go away. Oh great. Well better than bad doesn't equal good. Especially to me. I feel like, with very few exceptions, I could just jump off a bridge and no one would care. I hate myself most days. I wonder where I'm going wrong, because no one tells me. They, for the most part, basically tell me to get over myself. Easy for them to say. They aren't in my head. 

misleadingsmile
misleadingsmile
Don't really have any helpful advice for you...I dealt with it a lot too, and I never could get a handle on what to say back (I grew up in a decent home...not rich, by any means, but never struggling either) so I'd get a lot of "well what do you have to complain about"...I never got how to handle it, but I can at least listen if you ever need to vent =)
Valoo
Valoo
I appreciate that. Thank you
AboundingJoy
AboundingJoy
I hope you are feeling a bit better today? I'm sorry you feel such sadness in your heart. Our emotions are so powerful, aren't they? They seem so much more real to us than the truth out there. I had struggled with depression for a long time too when I was in high school and college.

I wonder, what is making you so sad? Is there something happening at home or school or work that's frustrating you?
Valoo
Valoo
It's incredibly selfish, but, in highly oversimplified terms, I'm so frustrated that I can't get my life to go the way I want
jannytheresa
jannytheresa
Not selfish at all. Sometimes we feel like we are not important or don't fit in. It's not your fault. You are probably a genuine person, maybe polite or quiet (oh my!). I am finding that the extroverts and sometimes narcissists rule the world. I don't know. Sometimes I feel so lost too, so you're not alone. You have a right to want to be happy. Maybe you just need to take a different path and avoid those who criticize you or minimize your pain
Valoo
Valoo
I have a right to be happy, sure, but what I don't have the right to do is complain that the world isn't the ideal utopia in my head, which is exactly what I really, *really* want to do, given the chance. And that eats me up, that I can be so upset that the world doesn't do everything that *I* want it to do, on *my* timetable, the way *I* want everything to happen. I shouldn't feel like that, and it bothers me that I do. It bothers me how much it bothers me. My anxiety gives me anxiety :P
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