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Wow.... I just honestly can't wrap my head around my freaking batshit crazy roommate right now.
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It's too long of a story to give the whole background here for anyone who wasn't on DS on saturday so I'll just give the links to the older posts about this:
http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Depression/forum/9442992-fckin-roommate
http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Depression/forum/9444692-getting-weird-roommate
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So, anyways... about 2 hours before people are supposed to start showing up for her "bbq" she comes home and comes up to me and says "so... are we cool?" I'm like "look, I don't want an awkward living arrangement so yeah I guess we're cool for now but we'll deal with this tomorrow" and bla bla bla, basically we agreed that this fight wasn't going to get solved but that we might as well drop it for now and talk about it the next day.
So much for that.
That night after her family has all left and she's got about 6 or 7 friends upstairs partying (while me and my friends are downstairs) it's clear she had some nasty things to say to her friends about me and mine because every time we walked through the upstairs to go outside they pretty much gave us death glares. And then at one point when we were coming back inside i made a random perverted comment to my friend (I don't even recall what it was now) because that's just the kind of sense of humour I have... and this like 40 year old bitch turns to me and starts going off about me being slutty and this and that... What the fuck?? So I just looked at her, smiled and said "meh, at least I've still got my youth" and went back downstairs. Me and my friends I will admit got a little immature at this point had for the next half hour or so when their music (which they had CRANKED) would stop we'd yell out some random comment revolving around her being old (and I'll admit some of it was pretty rude).
Anyways, apparently our neighbours called my roommate at some point complaining about the noise (which I'm not even sure I buy, because I'm not sure WHY exactly our neighbours would have her cell number......) and she had the audacity to bitch at me and MY friends for being too loud..... meanwhile upstairs they had the stereo blaring (which might I add she sent two of her friends downstairs to take without even asking despite the fact that we were listening to it.... literally, they just came down and without even a word unplugged it and took it upstairs!!) AND her and her stupid friends (including the old chick) were running around the house and back yard and front porch half fucking naked.........
THEN in the morning, I let two of my friends have a shower because they were still hanging around and we decided heck we'll BBQ today since we couldn't yesterday so they were stickin around for the day. Anyways, I walk out of my room after taking my shower and after my friend got in to take hers, and my roommate walks up and says (with a really bitchy look on her face) "how many fucking people are you going to let shower here?!" I replied "oh just two don't worry about it." to which she replied "well I pay the fucking bills around here you know! you can't just let the whole world come in and use our shower!" so, refusing to give her the satisfaction of getting to me I looked her straight in the eyes, smiled and said "well, good morning to you too, lil miss sunshine!" and walked away.
Then later on we were sitting in the living room (which was a HUGE mess from her and her friends the night before) and she picked up a few things and kept giving us dirty looks the whole time which we just pretended not to notice... and then she made a comment "you know it would be really nice if SOMEONE would help instead of just sitting here watching me!" so all I said was "dude.. this entire mess is from your friends and family - we already cleaned up the wee little mess we made downstairs...." and then she left the room (which is still not totally cleaned up btw) and avoided me for the rest of the day.
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Now, here's the part where I begin to have a really hard time resisiting the urge to punch her in the friggin ovaries.....
Today I texted her to ask a quick question about the work her dad is doing at the house and she replied right away. Then I texted her this exact message:
"let's have a sit down when I get home. It seemed yesterday as well as Saturday night that there was clearly still some animosity there and there is nothing shittier in my opinion than an uncomfortable or awkward living arrangement so we need to sort this out. Then we can let out clearly without yelling at each other what exactly it is we are upset about so we can both know better for next time what each others' expectations are regarding our behaviour."
That was almost 2 hours ago now, and about an hour, when she still hadn't texted me back I texted her ".........no?" and STILL no response.....
What the hell? Is she actually TRYING to push me over the edge here? I know full fucking well that I am in the right here and she is in the wrong, yet I am willing for the sake of getting along to sit down and talk with her about it and try to come to some kind of an understanding.
I'm starting to think she is trying to get me to physically assault her. Seriously. Because she is definitely on fucking track there! Thankfully I am not stupid enough to beat the piss out of my landlords' daughter...... at least not til move-out day.
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It's too long of a story to give the whole background here for anyone who wasn't on DS on saturday so I'll just give the links to the older posts about this:
http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Depression/forum/9442992-fckin-roommate
http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Depression/forum/9444692-getting-weird-roommate
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So, anyways... about 2 hours before people are supposed to start showing up for her "bbq" she comes home and comes up to me and says "so... are we cool?" I'm like "look, I don't want an awkward living arrangement so yeah I guess we're cool for now but we'll deal with this tomorrow" and bla bla bla, basically we agreed that this fight wasn't going to get solved but that we might as well drop it for now and talk about it the next day.
So much for that.
That night after her family has all left and she's got about 6 or 7 friends upstairs partying (while me and my friends are downstairs) it's clear she had some nasty things to say to her friends about me and mine because every time we walked through the upstairs to go outside they pretty much gave us death glares. And then at one point when we were coming back inside i made a random perverted comment to my friend (I don't even recall what it was now) because that's just the kind of sense of humour I have... and this like 40 year old bitch turns to me and starts going off about me being slutty and this and that... What the fuck?? So I just looked at her, smiled and said "meh, at least I've still got my youth" and went back downstairs. Me and my friends I will admit got a little immature at this point had for the next half hour or so when their music (which they had CRANKED) would stop we'd yell out some random comment revolving around her being old (and I'll admit some of it was pretty rude).
Anyways, apparently our neighbours called my roommate at some point complaining about the noise (which I'm not even sure I buy, because I'm not sure WHY exactly our neighbours would have her cell number......) and she had the audacity to bitch at me and MY friends for being too loud..... meanwhile upstairs they had the stereo blaring (which might I add she sent two of her friends downstairs to take without even asking despite the fact that we were listening to it.... literally, they just came down and without even a word unplugged it and took it upstairs!!) AND her and her stupid friends (including the old chick) were running around the house and back yard and front porch half fucking naked.........
THEN in the morning, I let two of my friends have a shower because they were still hanging around and we decided heck we'll BBQ today since we couldn't yesterday so they were stickin around for the day. Anyways, I walk out of my room after taking my shower and after my friend got in to take hers, and my roommate walks up and says (with a really bitchy look on her face) "how many fucking people are you going to let shower here?!" I replied "oh just two don't worry about it." to which she replied "well I pay the fucking bills around here you know! you can't just let the whole world come in and use our shower!" so, refusing to give her the satisfaction of getting to me I looked her straight in the eyes, smiled and said "well, good morning to you too, lil miss sunshine!" and walked away.
Then later on we were sitting in the living room (which was a HUGE mess from her and her friends the night before) and she picked up a few things and kept giving us dirty looks the whole time which we just pretended not to notice... and then she made a comment "you know it would be really nice if SOMEONE would help instead of just sitting here watching me!" so all I said was "dude.. this entire mess is from your friends and family - we already cleaned up the wee little mess we made downstairs...." and then she left the room (which is still not totally cleaned up btw) and avoided me for the rest of the day.
************
Now, here's the part where I begin to have a really hard time resisiting the urge to punch her in the friggin ovaries.....
Today I texted her to ask a quick question about the work her dad is doing at the house and she replied right away. Then I texted her this exact message:
"let's have a sit down when I get home. It seemed yesterday as well as Saturday night that there was clearly still some animosity there and there is nothing shittier in my opinion than an uncomfortable or awkward living arrangement so we need to sort this out. Then we can let out clearly without yelling at each other what exactly it is we are upset about so we can both know better for next time what each others' expectations are regarding our behaviour."
That was almost 2 hours ago now, and about an hour, when she still hadn't texted me back I texted her ".........no?" and STILL no response.....
What the hell? Is she actually TRYING to push me over the edge here? I know full fucking well that I am in the right here and she is in the wrong, yet I am willing for the sake of getting along to sit down and talk with her about it and try to come to some kind of an understanding.
I'm starting to think she is trying to get me to physically assault her. Seriously. Because she is definitely on fucking track there! Thankfully I am not stupid enough to beat the piss out of my landlords' daughter...... at least not til move-out day.
It is against the law, no matter how much she deserves it.
That is what trained wolverines are for! (jk)
Right now my plans for the summer are totally up in the air and I have no idea whether I will be staying in the city or not for the summer - meaning, I can't go ahead and sign a lease right now. It's also complicated financially - at the moment I have no prospective roommates and genuinely cannot afford a place of my own.
I am stuck here. Getting out is not a viable solution. The only viable solution is to somehow work things out with her, but she is not being the least bit conducive in that respect. I really don't know what to do! I don't want to bend over backwards to resolve this, because I refuse to be a doormat and the last thing I need is to send her the message that she can get away with pulling this kind of crap.... but at the same time, unlike her, I HAVE to get this sorted out.... her parents own this house for fuck sake..... if this crap doesn't get sorted out, I'm on some really thin ice.
This is just so fucking unfair and ridiculous!! I'm trying to hard to be mature about this, and to deal with her like a freaking adult, but she refuses. She won't admit that she has done ANYTHING wrong, and even after I fucking APOLOGIZED to HER for yelling at her the other morning she STILL will not admit to any wrongdoing!! Seriously?!!!!! I'm trying to be reasonable here. I'm trying to be fair. I'm admitting where I could have dealt with the situation and STILL nothing constructive from her - she won't even start with admitting that maybe it was a little inconsiderate of her to invite 15 people over to the house, including babies kids and her grandma, without first running it by her roommate who she already knew was planning to have a couple of friends over........ RIDICULOUSSSSSS