I have often wonered that myself. It seems that it would be good as both people understand depression and what each other is going thru.

no i don't just because they would understand i don't think it would work.

I think it really depends on whether or not the other person is making the individual more depressed by being depressed. I know that my emotions stem off of other people and that I would have a hard time with that. My friends tend to be very "happy" people, at least on the outside. Of course everyone has their own problems, but I try to stay around people that while they may have depression, they never bring me down.

im not sure, i think in one way it would be good as they would understand each other, but would they be able to support one another and be strong when the others feeling low??? not sure if it would work or not...

My husband and I are both depressed, although he won't admit his. When someone is depressed, they tend to be self-centered. It's kind of hard to help someone else when u are suffering yourself. I think only if both people are willing to go into therapy together, or read self help stuff together, etc. can the relationship work. Otherwise, if the two people are really tied together, the depression of the partner may bring the other one down even further. I don't know SK, really good question, though.

Yes I do think it can work. But only if both people admit to the depression. Some people see saying I have depression as a weakness. ( I do not see it as that ). A couple with depression in my opinion can grow together as a couple. They understand what the other is going through and can be each others support.

I have to agree with Jazz. If both are depressed, one is not admitting it, then the other gets pulled down even further. I think I'm living that. My boyfriend of 14 years has a problem with up/down swings, but says 'there is nothing wrong with ME'...but I admit I have a problem and am seeking help for it. I feel like the stronger one since I have admitted I need to get help for my depression/anxiety. Our relationship is not working now..and unfortunately at some point will most likely fail completely.

Well I understand the whole "self centered" thing. Not that it's being self-centered but that you just want to shut the world out and not care about anything. I know my guy feels that way. he told me he's really at a low point right now, and sent me an email the other day saying he didn't want to talk to anyone, or do anything, or see anyone because he was so low. But he got on Instant Messanger in a couple hours and talked with me. It made me feel so good that he was able to do that. That maybe, just maybe I was able to comfort him just a little.

My husband suffers from SAD, I dont Im just mental all the time!lol
We do ok and are able to lift each other up when we see the other having problems...but we are normally happy people and I think a lot of it would depend on the individual personalities...

My husband and I both suffer from depression. I have found that it helps so much to have someone that actually understands what I am going through and he feels the same way. We help each other through the tough times and it has brought us closer together. I don't think I would have made it many times if it weren't for him understanding where I am coming from. Especially when I break out in tears over something silly or get angry for no good reason.

What a great question and I have often wonder the same thing. I don't know if it could work or not. I guess it would depened on the people within the relationship. I know for me it's very difficult to live with my daughter who has depression and thrives on drama to the point of making sure it's there in her life. I on the other and wants boredom over drama.

It's a double-edged sword, as both people involved have the capacity for understanding, but when you both hit a low, there is little-no support, and it could get ugly.
If you are both willing to go the extra mile, and willing to learn and recognize your own warning signs, and allow each other the space you need when you need it, without the other taking it personally and feeling rejected, it could be a really solid relationship.

It seems like it would be a vicious circle of depression. If one person is in a bad mood that will put the other person in a bad mood. It would help if both people would work together to be happy again.

The giving space part is hard for me Star. When he's low all I want to do is console him, try to help him through it, but he goes into his shell. I know I can't fix it, but I wish he would allow me in. It makes me feel rejected, and I have to keep reminding myself that I can't take it personally. Sometimes it's really hard. Like tonight for example. I spoke with him on my way home from work. I know it was difficult for him to pick up the phone. But he knew it was me calling, and we talked for a bit. I know it was difficult for him to do it. We kept it light. But the point is, all he wants to do is shut the world out, yet he lets me in. So I do have hope that things will get better. Honestly, it makes me feel really good that he takes some of that wall down with me. I know how difficult it is. For me, when I'm really down, I get very emotional. I don't keep it in.

Do you think love can pull you out of depression somewhat?