Depression Support Group

Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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AprilStar 05/26/2010

Does anyone ever wonder WHY they're depressed? I've been thinking about it a lot lately. I mean, my life's not that bad. There isn't really a reason for me to be thinking constantly of wanting to end my life. There's no reason why I feel like I can hardly get through the day alive. Sometimes I wonder, if I had a reason, would that make things any better? Would having an excuse for my depression help me to cope with it? I doubt it, depression doesn't have to make sense, but I still wonder. Is there a reason? And if there was, would it help me to know it?

deleted_user 05/26/2010

Chemistry

AprilStar 05/26/2010

Ya, I know. I think I mean more of a reason that I can understand. A tangible reason that I can wrap my head around.

deleted_user 05/26/2010

Possibly DNA and social circumstance together. Environmental surroundings has to play a part.

deleted_user 05/26/2010

Well there's alot of reasons. Chemistry is one, like Pepper said. Past events or things said that we internalized and never healed. Current events in our lives or in the world. Genetics. Repressions. And, I believe, unresolved pain from one's past lives.

deleted_user 05/26/2010

..truth is sometimes it's that simple hon. Not something that can be reasoned with. It just IS. I spent a good bit of the last 15 years trying to figure out my physical state(not the depression part) I may never know the reason so.. 15 yrs wanting to know why came down to zip. Sometimes it just is.

Chemistry's a reason hon,, it's just one idea of many I'm sure people will chime in.

hugs to you

AprilStar 05/26/2010

I know, but I've just heard that reason so many times, and it doesn't seem to resolve anything. I know it's the only reason I'll probably even really get, but it's not helping! Sorry, I'm just a little frustrated right now with my complete lack of getting any better, ever.

deleted_user 05/26/2010

Would you need a reason if you had cancer?
It is just as real a disease, and it can be just as destructive, if you don't seek treatment.

deleted_user 05/26/2010

That's the point of medication. To readjust the chemicals in our heads, so that we could function more effectively.

As clinical as that sounds.

sja 05/26/2010

I know for me it is hereditary and chemistry. I think for everyone, it is different, but it is an interesting question.

AprilStar 05/26/2010

I probably would still want a reason.

If there was a reason, other than chemistry, maybe there would be something that could be done to make things better though. Because nothing seems to be helping right now.

deleted_user 05/26/2010

I mean, I can understand the frustration. I don't think of it so much as just wanting to know the reason as much as I want to cure the root cause. But I don't get a neat, clean, "here is your problem" in a nice little box. Bad brain chemistry runs in my family, I was born with it and I'll have it forever. I didn't always need medication though and would like to be off it again in the future. So all I can do is try to find the reasons behind each little problem or trigger I've got and try to find a way to be at peace as much as I can.

deleted_user 05/26/2010

No control

deleted_user 05/26/2010

You can help it with regular exercise and healthy food, keeping active. Things like that, but sometimes you just spend a lot of time looking for why is all I'm saying instead of just accepting it.

Accepting doesn't mean you're laying down your soul, it just means you've decided not to run in a circle after something determined to elude you. It's not always catchable to cage.

deleted_user 05/26/2010

well part of it is that your actual brain pathways and form change if you deal with prolonged or multiple episodes of depression. Soooooo when that happens not only do you have to address the chemical part you have to form new actual pathways in your bran as well through sustaned behaviour and thought change.

deleted_user 05/26/2010

Have you ever tried or are you in counseling to get to the botton of your depression?

JMO but I think so much of it is in our DNA. I know it's in mine. My dad was a mean drunk and I like to think his Native American heritage plays a big part in that.

I don't question why any more. I just accept that's the hand I was dealt and take care of myself as best I can.

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