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I don't know what to say. It seems like everything in my life that I built that was good is falling apart rapidly. My former job that I had for seven years went up in flames, it was a disaster, then I was unemployed, and I had to look for a year and pull myself out of a huge financial hole.
Now, the current job I have, well, it's not working. I have been working and dealing with it for the past year and a half, and well, I had horrible feedback from my boss and a really nasty letter written, I can't go into it here. Suffice it to say that my union rep looked at the letter and the stunned look on his face said it all. I said, "that was my reaction." He couldn't even reply; he was speechless. So was I.
On top of it, I don't think I have my friends anymore. After my breakup w/my boyfriend, I thought I would have my friends, but I think I am alone now. I hung out with this couple a lot, but i think she thinks I have a thing for him, which I don't. She lately acts really funny when I am around. They invited me to dinner several weeks ago. When I went to pick them up, she was glaring and looking angry and awful and she didn't say anything in the car as we were heading down. They have always stood in place of my family, which was severely dysfunctional. Now I feel like I have hit rock bottom. Even when I see her at get togethers if I am smiling or talking she just looks down at the ground. Plus they are not getting along and they bicker. It used to be a safe haven to get together, it held me together, it kept me going, a real bright spot in my life. I feel like the light has gone out. My family treats me in a worse way. I've thought of moving state, of starting over.
Now, the current job I have, well, it's not working. I have been working and dealing with it for the past year and a half, and well, I had horrible feedback from my boss and a really nasty letter written, I can't go into it here. Suffice it to say that my union rep looked at the letter and the stunned look on his face said it all. I said, "that was my reaction." He couldn't even reply; he was speechless. So was I.
On top of it, I don't think I have my friends anymore. After my breakup w/my boyfriend, I thought I would have my friends, but I think I am alone now. I hung out with this couple a lot, but i think she thinks I have a thing for him, which I don't. She lately acts really funny when I am around. They invited me to dinner several weeks ago. When I went to pick them up, she was glaring and looking angry and awful and she didn't say anything in the car as we were heading down. They have always stood in place of my family, which was severely dysfunctional. Now I feel like I have hit rock bottom. Even when I see her at get togethers if I am smiling or talking she just looks down at the ground. Plus they are not getting along and they bicker. It used to be a safe haven to get together, it held me together, it kept me going, a real bright spot in my life. I feel like the light has gone out. My family treats me in a worse way. I've thought of moving state, of starting over.
Truths:
She has her bloomers in a knot over something and as far as you know, it is nothing to do with you.
They are bickering and you do not feel comfortable around them at this time.
You broke up with BF. That is done and finished.
You have problems with your current job. Its future does not look promising.
Conclusions:
Drop your association with the couple ... for now.
Seek employment elsewhere ... immediately.
My advice does not respect your emotions, ... I realize that. I am not belittling you for your emotions. I am certain this is all very frightening to you and I just wanted to 'simplify' it for you. What I have said is what it 'boils down to' at this time.
Good luck to you. Get busy ... and solve these problems. You will be much happier.
As far as relationships, honey, they come and go. People die, people become distant. You can't pin your reason for living on a relationship. Enjoy the love when it's there, then allow yourself to detach when the seasons of life and people begin to change, then prepare to attach to some new form of love that may be just around the corner.
Adaptability is the key to survival. The one constancy in the universe you can count on is inconstancy. Everything is continually evolving, and so must you.
give positive and negative feedback, without attacking the person. If
you find a true friend to replace your former, insecure and possibly
jealous friend, that will be good. If not, you will be fine. Find whatever
things you enjoy, and do them.
Sending you good thoughts and wishes.