Maybe if he makes you feel bad you should stop seeing him. What is a coach? I don't have many friends either and used to go to church but stopped.

does your coach have any actual professional training?

ANYBODY CAN BECOME A SOCIAL WORKER----INCLUDING HIGH SCHOOL DROP OUTS WITH A POLICE RECORD.

I found that out with my hometown mental health group, where high functioning alpha males---on disability---were getting paid to advise others on disability, with them just parroting papers they get out of the filing cabinet.

p.s.

my broken record, that I posted elsewhere: I was once telling the volunteer director about bad stuff that happened to me, with him then yelling at me: GET OVER IT!

he once admitted he only became director of the drop-in cause he used to get drunk with the ex-husband who started the place...and he was on disability, same as me.

my case worker also disagreed with me that potatoes weren't in Europe, including Ireland, until after Columbus visited the Americas; potatos were only grown in the Americas, till the 16th century....my case worker, who was getting paid by my hometown mental help group, disagreed with me on that.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/History_of_the_potato

ps2

my sloppy writing; volunteer director of local dropin admitted he got chance to run the place cause he used to get drunk with the ex-husband of the woman who started the dropin.

Is this a recovery coach?

If he is making you feel bad and not offering helpful advice it's probably best to see if you can get someone new, but I feel like there is a piece or two of the puzzle missing.

Does he say why he wants you to go to church?

Does he say why he doesn't consider the people you hang out with friends?

And are they people you just hang out with or are they people who can offer you support and you offer the same in return?

I both hang out with them and they offer me support. They have done a lot for me, physically and emotionally, in my opinion. I think he thinks we have to lay all over each other like we do in group. My friends listen to me as well as hang out with me according to what I see.

Also, he says church is preferable because not only am I emotionally close with them, we do things, go to parties, I think he thinks it's too much of a 'wild' lifestyle. I am not converting my lifestyle cause I do fun things and party. They are not just party friends, they are talking and understanding friends too. Also, I'm not going to start watching Gomer Pyle like he suggests and stop watching shows like Lie to Me because they are "too sarcastic". And, I am not going to stop sports or other combat, martial art type sports cause it's not 'loving.' I'm not a pacifist. And, I'm not going to be celibate til marriage like they are asking. Not happening.

You say coach I say CONTROL FREAK!!! Don't walk but RUN from this situation ASAP...it sounds more like a cult than a church.