You keep going and get some help, dear! I have a problem daughter. Don't know how old yours is, but mine is 31 and she's been slapping me down for 15 years. I had to finally tell myself enough is enough. I just do not like being around her or how she makes me feel. I don't know if she was switched at birth or what, but she is unlike ANYONE in the family. Even my ex has distanced himself from her. Keep talking to us sweetie and please do not "quit life"!

yes - i know how you feel

but none of us can give in to this damn illness.... i just keep telling myself i am more stubborn than the depression and keep the communication open with my doctor - - eventually we will find the balance i once had

as far as what you do? you hang onto us and we will help each other make it through another day, then another and another
*hugs* draco

You don't say how old your daughter is, but since you are 43, i am guessing she is a teenager. Sometimes they don't express themselves very well. Are you all in family counseling? I hope that you seek that if you aren't. If I put myself in your daughter's shoes, I would be very angry that you rejected me by trying to commit suicide. That may not be the case here, but witnessing that, and/or the aftermath, must have been very traumatic for her!
And I am sure you know this. I hope it gets better. Seek counseling, and keep coming here to talk.

I would assume by your age, your daughter is in her early teens...say 13 or 14. If so, that's a tough age for both parent and child. They strive to have more freedom and yet, they probably haven't shown enough responsibility to have those freedoms and they tend to rebel and distance themselves from their parents. I have a 14yo daughter, the youngest of 3. She's the toughest. I get completely ignored. I think perhaps you should sit down with your daughter, face to face, alone, in a room, no distractions and talk it out. Do not raise your voice or accuse her of anything or get into any type of squabble. Try to get her to talk to you in a mature manner. Tell her the truth about how you feel and how the depression affects you. Ask her for complete honesty also. Take this opportunity to really open up and share with her. If you can do that, you are off to a great start at helping yourself. Maybe she will understand your pain and be more compassionate and sympathetic to your condition. Just keep loving her.

My daughter is 17, My whole family is in therapy. I am thinking of speaking to her therapist about this problem. I feel like I am fighting a losing battle.

yeah, it sounds like you might need a mediator in this. Speaking to her therapist certainly wouldn't hurt!

I totally understand, to the point that you feel like you are fighting a battel you can't win. I am 26, I was terrible to my mother when I was younger, that I still have the guilt. Your daughter doesn't mean the things that she says. The worst part, when we are young is that we haven't had enough life exp. to really truly care about the feelings of those we love. I didn't feel anything until I left home. Then it is a kick in the ass. I don't know how your daughter feels, but I can tell you that now, I look up to my mother with glowing eyes, in aw of what I put her through, and the fact that she can forgive me now. The things she is doing that hurt you, are probably hurting her inside too, and just as bad. Stick in there and keep loving her as you do. But take care of yourself. My mother is so worried about me right now, that she doesn't take care of her own needs, depression, weight, everything. Instead she puts that aside and adds more to her shoulders with me. And to be honest, that actually makes me feel worse, because I hate to cause her pain.
My advice, and it is coming from someone who has had some time to realize, is that you fix yourself. You try and capture your own frustrations and let your daughter run her course. If you speak to her theripist, she will see that as invading, like reading her diary. It is hard, but just continue to let her know that you are there and that no matter what she says to you, that you will still love her unconditionally. You are a wonderful and loving mother. I know that because you are reaching out here on DS. If I was wrong, you wouldn't be here.

I have a 22 year old daughter that put us through hell when she was 13 to 16. Very distant and disrespectful. This was at the height of my bipolar so it was extremely hard to cope with her. We wrote things down, things that the other did to annoy the other, we also made up contracts about what we would and would not do. It did help some. We also had mum and daughter counselling sessions, again it helped some. Teenagers are tough to deal with even if your well. you also have nothing to be guitly for, you're ill, leave the guilt behind, it's not helpful. As far as the suicide attempt is, this is the point that really scares me. Get immediate help. Check your self into a hospital if necessary. Life can and will be good again, just give it a chance. I'll prayer for the white light of the Holy spirit to take away your negative thoughts and feelings. The power of prayer is amazing. be well.

I was with my mom when she took a bottle of pills. I had to help hold her down while they pumped her stomach. I had to see her on my birthday in a locked down facility after she got out of the hospital. About 11 months later, I moved back to Colorado. She did it again. We went to jail for DV which she doesn't know what happened because she was so drunk. They had to let me out of jail because she hit me on the back of the head with a solid peuter tray and gave me a concussion.
We have always had a volital relationship.
I love her because she is my mother.
It is a wound that festers. Her suicide attempts and alcoholism makes me feel like I mean nothing to her. I am 33 and this has happened just in the past 5 years. Because she and my brother have both attempted suicide, it is always in the back of my head. I told my therapist that the reason I have never attempted suicide is because I know I would succeed.
Please ask your daughter about her pain and fears.
It is hard to get over. I will give you this heartfelt advice which I have never heard from my mother.
Be sincere. Sit her down and tell her that you want to get everything out so that you and her can move on, fresh and honest.
Explain to her what depression is. That it is a disease and it has to be treated.
I will admit there are days that I don't want to take another breath.
Let her know that you love her.
Tell how you want things to change.
Ask her whatever it is she needs to heal from all this pain.
She may be depressed and doesn't know how to feel. Eventhough you are still here, she is grieving and she hasn't gotten past the anger stage.
The both of you have to be proactive. I suggest that both of you get counseling together and seperately.
I hope this helps.

I have two kids myself. Mine do tend to get mouthy and rude. My consequence for nasty potty mouth is priviledges removed coupled with reduction in their allowance. If at all possible, try to ignore the blah blah and the uproar. The problem is with her not you.My youngest was rude the other night and we just ignored him. He eventually stopped and went to bed.

I have two kids myself. Mine do tend to get mouthy and rude. My consequence for nasty potty mouth is priviledges removed coupled with reduction in their allowance. If at all possible, try to ignore the blah blah and the uproar. The problem is with her not you.My youngest was rude the other night and we just ignored him. He eventually stopped and went to bed.

I think anyone going through depression wants to quit. Gosh I can't even count how many times. It just comes with the territory. You just have to take one day at a time. Remember to take care of you don't try to please everyone else. Take time for yourself and have some fun. Don't take crap from people (like your daughter who probably makes you feel guilty)shes not perfect either. I think you both care about each other. Don't know your daughters age but they are never to old to disrepect you and they always think they know more than you. Don't feel guilty because you know that you are the mother and you know what is right. Don't beat yourself up sounds like you get enough of that. If we all in this depression group didn't feel guilty we probably wouldn't be depressed but here I am too guilty for all kinds of things. I can tell you Suicide Is NOt the Answer. Tried several times and didn't work. God wasn't ready for me and he's not ready for you either. Try looking to him for answers to through prayer. Good Luck and God Bless.

YES! I feel like that now!

Don't give up! Keep on fighting! Keep on reaching out to your daughter, eventually she will come around. Keep up the counseling. In time things will look and feel different. Hugs to you!

Don't know how old your daughter is but if she is an adult and treating you like dirt then get her out of your life. I know that is hard to do. We're hard wired to love our kids and want to have them in our lives but there are toxic people out there and just because we're related to them is no excuse to let them abuse us.
I have a daughter who brings grief to everyone she's in contact with so I know what it's like to tell one of your kids I love you but I don't like you and don't want you in my life.
When your fighting depression and finding life hard enough to deal with you don't need to add another burden to the pile, life will give you plenty wihtout looking for trouble.