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Ive gone through a terrible depression over the past 7 years but now, for the first time Im making positive progress. However, Im still fighting my mental demons. I have figured out how to avoid falling into a deeply depressed state of mind and I explained how I accomplished this in a previous journal. However, Im still having trouble with obsessive thoughts that put me there in the first place.
I became obsessed with a family member about 7 years ago. Nothing like this has ever happened to me before. That person has not been a part of my life for the last four years but unfortunately she lives inside my head. Now that I have a handle on my bad episodes of depression my goal is to try to lose this obsession. I realize that if I feed the obsession by simply thinking about her the obsession will not go away. Deep inside I keep hoping that we could be close again but that hope is fueling my obsession. Obsession causes anxiety and anxiety causes depression. A therapist told me that once and it makes sense to me.
Whenever the thought of her pops into my head I try to usher it out. It is a little confusing and frustrating. I get frustrated by the fact that those thoughts just keep coming back all day every day from the moment I wake in the morning till bedtime.
Ive learned a lot about emotions involved with losing someone I used to be close to. Ive lost friends before, Ive experienced bad breakups with girlfriends in the past, Ive lost loved family members when they pass away and pets too but this is a very different and strange situation. Nothing has ever torn me apart emotionally as much as losing someone who used to be like a daughter and close friend to me. I havent really lost her, its just that she refuses to have anything to do with me. Its actually a good thing because if she did, Id never get over this obsession.
Ive learned that when someone you are close to suddenly severs the relationship the best thing to do is just try to accept it. Give that person their freedom. Continue to love that person. The worst thing to do is get angry and feel hatred for them. That causes so many horrible emotions. I hope I can figure out how to break this obsession
I became obsessed with a family member about 7 years ago. Nothing like this has ever happened to me before. That person has not been a part of my life for the last four years but unfortunately she lives inside my head. Now that I have a handle on my bad episodes of depression my goal is to try to lose this obsession. I realize that if I feed the obsession by simply thinking about her the obsession will not go away. Deep inside I keep hoping that we could be close again but that hope is fueling my obsession. Obsession causes anxiety and anxiety causes depression. A therapist told me that once and it makes sense to me.
Whenever the thought of her pops into my head I try to usher it out. It is a little confusing and frustrating. I get frustrated by the fact that those thoughts just keep coming back all day every day from the moment I wake in the morning till bedtime.
Ive learned a lot about emotions involved with losing someone I used to be close to. Ive lost friends before, Ive experienced bad breakups with girlfriends in the past, Ive lost loved family members when they pass away and pets too but this is a very different and strange situation. Nothing has ever torn me apart emotionally as much as losing someone who used to be like a daughter and close friend to me. I havent really lost her, its just that she refuses to have anything to do with me. Its actually a good thing because if she did, Id never get over this obsession.
Ive learned that when someone you are close to suddenly severs the relationship the best thing to do is just try to accept it. Give that person their freedom. Continue to love that person. The worst thing to do is get angry and feel hatred for them. That causes so many horrible emotions. I hope I can figure out how to break this obsession
That's what my therapist and I have figured out.
SO.......
What are you too afraid to think about and face?
You don't have to answer the question of course.
I once had someone obsessing over me. We had been "friends" for a VERY long time. (Close to twenty years)
But I had to cut all ties with him. ((Long story, but he was detrimental to my mental health) So, I explained to him that we could not be friends anymore. That I needed to get away from him in order to get well.
He tried to "Force" me to stay in his life. Even to this day, after two years, he sends me letters via snail mail. (I blocked his emails)
It is very bothersome. In fact, his refusal to accept my decision has made me hate him.
I cringe when I see a letter from him.
I'm sure your situation is very different from mine, but you do have to let her go. The pain will lessen.
Everyday, the pain of her memory will dissipate just a little more.
You will never forget her completely because she is in your past. But hopefully soon, you will be able to think of her without it hurting so much.
Good Luck To You :-)