You have been together for a long time. You deserve to know the truth what his sexuality is. I understand it won't be easy to talk about, but it is the only way you are going to know.

well, there are a few things. firstly, and most importantly, can you accept the fact that he may be bisexual? Because if that is not something you can handle, then you need to start severing this relationship.

Secondly, just because it is a porn of interest does not mean it is something he will act on. There are lots of people who enjoy watching a certain kind of porn, but have no intentions acting on it. I am female, but I enjoy gay male porn. Obviously I will never be a part of a situation like that! lol.

Thirdly, is this something that you would like to do WITH him? Have you suggested watching some bisexual porn TOGETHER? I know it sounds strange and it can be uncomfortable at first, but many couples grow to really love that time together. I know that there are times when my husband and I will agree to various porn. He has his likes, I have my likes, unfortunately, we have very little likes that overlap. But, if I am not able to watch the tv because of whatever I am doing, he can watch whatever, and vice versa.

Lastly, there needs to be honesty. He needs to explain to you honestly WHY he has these accounts. Do not make this accusing. Just an open conversation. Do not get mad, do not yell or anything. Gay/Bi stuff for any guy can be something that is difficult to share because our society wants to say it is strange, when it is not. Sexuality is a very gray shade, not black and white.

I'm speculating but it sounds like you're more concerned with the deception than the idea he may be bisexual. Although I think you want an explanation on that too. Tell him what you found. Tell him you want to talk about it and understand, that you want to understand his sexuality and you don't want any lying between you. Then based on what he says, you need to decide if you can live with a bisexual boyfriend. Don't immediately jump ship because of it. Like the other poster said sexuality is more fluid than many care to recognize. But you need to decide if you are ok with it. Take some time after you talk to him to mull it over and maybe have more conversations. A good rule of thumb: first seek to understand. then to be understood.

Thank you all who have replied so far from the bottom of my heart! Do I understand men think about sex all the time? Absolutely yes! Can I except the fact that he may be bisexual? Absolutely yes, I love him with all of my heart! I just want him to be truthful and honest with me about his wants, needs, and desires and want to address the issue without him feeling hurt or upset. We are very intimate together and yes we have watched porn together. Currently he resides in Canada and I in the US however I do go to visit him on weekends twice a month so a lot of times I wonder if it's because he's horny or bored or both. He has mentioned several times that he wants me to come to Canada and move in with him which we are in the process of doing now so I know his heart is true. He's been completely honest with me about everything since day one except for this so naturally I'm just curious if he is afraid that by telling me this that I may leave him as he has had severe depression in the past and most of his life growing up from what he has told me. I just want to be able to gently Open up and discuss this issue with him lovingly without him thinking that I'm going to "jump ship" that is the last thing I would do but just want to understand where he's coming from. Thank you all again so much! It's been a great help!

Snooping or not, this is a big deal. You have a right to know if the boy your serious about is straight, gay or bisexual, because although you say it won't matter to you, it will affect your relationship. When guys spend alot of time on Porn sites of any type or have people sending them naked pics or they send out naked pics, it tends to cause problems in the relationship, jealousy rares up, and its really hard for things to just stay the same. You really need to just sit down with him and ask him calmly to talk to you about what all this means and what it means for your relationship.

Hello,
The only thing I would say that you guys need to have a talk is because of diseases. Really, using protection, etc....if he may be acting on some of the impulses, etc, the likelihood of a disease goes up. I know that's not really the greatest thing you would want to hear nor the first thing on your mind, but it is a factor nonetheless. If he's not completely monogamous, it's something to check out.
Good luck,
orion

Blondie, if you would like to talk objectively send me a message. I do not care to share where men are already being bashed. I hope to hear from you. J