Depression Support Group

Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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Falcon05
Falcon05

One of the reasons I have depression is that I have low self esteem. I was often judged and compared as a child, bullied growing up, had very little friends, and have never been in a relationship. I've managed to make my first real friendship last year and it's crazy because it's my secret. I'm very successful and people look up to me, but I'm a fake. I often feel that I'm unlovable, will always be alone, and just about convinced that I'm the problem. Would like any help I can get. 

ChristianWhovian
ChristianWhovian
You are not unlovable! You are not the problem. Depression is no one's fault. Not even yours. Talk to a Therapist or your friend. Keep writing. We're here to help!
mtd
mtd
The reason you feel like a fake is simply because you don’t let people see the real you. But that doesn’t constitute you being a fake, it just means you are afraid and very reserved. Being a fake means you deliberately act like something you aren’t, which is what is usually known as being an actor. Big, big difference.
TheConfusedAsian
TheConfusedAsian
I deal with severe low self-esteem and self-hatred. Your experiences sound very familiar to mine; I was also bullied as a child into my late teenage years, and although I've been in romantic relationships they have always been abusive so.. I don't consider them real relationships. I also have a large circle of friends but they are superficial friendships, but most of the time I'm okay with that. I often feel fake as well.. I go through highs and lows all the time.

But you should pat yourself on the back for making your first real friendship - that is a HUGE accomplishment and you should be very proud of yourself. You are not unlovable and you are definitely not alone. I think what would help is if you join some groups via sites like meet up.com. What are your interests and hobbies? You say you are successful so it sounds like you may be putting in a lot of time at work. Are there any colleagues you get along with? This is easier said than done, but why not ask some to a happy hour? If you don't drink, get a tea or coffee, or grab a meal with them. It'll help you a lot to have actives and interests that'll "distract" you until the distraction becomes a part of life and you feel more welcome and loved and fulfilled.