Depression Support Group

Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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RockNMetalChic 01/16/2008

OMG! IT'S BEEN LIKE 3 WEEKS SINCE MY ON AGAIN OFF AGAIN RELATIONSHIP/ AFFAIR HAS BEEN OVER WITH R SO I THOUGHT ! BUT MATT CALLED ME TODAY AND ACTS LIKE NOTHING HAPPENED- HE TALKED AND BEFORE I COULD GET A WORD OUT OF MY MOUTH - HE SAYS MY WIFE KAREN HAS MOVED OUT AND TAKEN THE CAR- I'M DOING BETTER AND I LOVE YOU AND I'LL CALL U AT 8 TONIGHT ! I COULDN'T GET ONE WORD OUT OF MY MOUTH- AND OUT OF HABIT I SAID I LOVE U BACK- TO MAKE THIS SITUATION ALITTLE MORE COMPLICATED THERE IS A 50/50 PERCENT CHANCE I'M PREGNANT AND HE IS THE FATHER- I HAVEN'T TOLD HIM YET AND NOW I'M WONDERING DO I TELL HIM THIS TONIGHT R DO I NOT? WHAT DO I EVEN SAY TO THIS MAN WHO HURT ME 16 TIMES! I STILL LOVE HIM AND I WANT TO BELIEVE ALL OF WHAT HE IS SAYIN IS TRUE- BUT SOMEHOW I REALLY DOUBT SHE IS LEAVING AND I'M GOING INSANE HERE - HOW DO U GET OVER SOMEONE WHEN THEY WON'T GO AWAY- I'VE TRIED GETTING A NEW NUMBER- HE KNOWS WHERE I LIVE AND SO HE WOULD JUST DRIVE HERE IF I DIDN'T ANSWER MY PHONE AND IF I STILL REFUSED TO TALK TO HIM- HE WOULD SEND ME A LETTER- HE IS GONNA GET TO ME AND TRY TO PULL ME BACK IN - I CAN ALREADY FEEL IT HAPPENING ! WHAT AM I GONNA DO AND WHY ME LORD! WHY ? !!! I JUST WANNA SCREAM !!!! SOMEONE PLEASE SHOOT ME IN THE HEAD !!!

deleted_user 01/16/2008

I would not do anything until I found out if I was preggy or not.

deleted_user 01/16/2008

Well i don't wanna get bashed here but i don't agree with having an affair with a married man in the first place. I know it takes 2 2 tango & i don't blame it all on u. Make sure hes just not using u now that hos wife has left. Becareful xx

deleted_user 01/16/2008

hummmm find out if this is really true? seems someone had to leave. but now is he just going to be continuing to chase both of you now?

deleted_user 01/16/2008

Wow i have had the same problem off and on for 4 years. I haven't heard from him since sept. This has been the longest time we've ever been apart. i never ever call or pursue him.

My advice to you is no don't tell him until you know for sure. My experience is if they loved us they wouldn't of left. they would be here. love is moving mountains for someone not hurting ppl and lying. I would suggest you slam that door on him and run like hell. He will ruin your life if he hasn't already. Let me guess is he an alcoholic????

firespinner 01/16/2008

i would see if i was preg for def before sayin anything - but it sounds to me although i dont know wots reli going, that he has treated you badly and if you dont wanna be with him you got to have the confidence to say so! if you are pregnant- do you wanna be treated badly when you are having a baby? xx

deleted_user 01/16/2008

Take some advise from someone who was there 20 years ago. RUN LIKE THE WIND. Being with someone married is what through me in my state of depression and low self esteem for my entire life

deleted_user 01/16/2008

I agree with all ov the above & another thing u need 2 think ov if he cheated on his wife what makes u so sure he isn't on u. Once a cheat always a cheat, i know i live with one for 8yrs.

deleted_user 01/16/2008

I totally agree with shelley.

deleted_user 01/16/2008

I wouldnt even give him time of day. Even if you are pregnant..how can you rely on him as a father for your baby? Personally...i'd tell him to take a hike but then again...1 time of betrayal would be 1 time too many for me and he wouldnt have got the 15 other chances in the 1st place. Try and get soem slef esteem together. You know this man is never gona change :)

RockNMetalChic 01/16/2008

Thanks for all the advice ya'll i really do appreciate it. yeah i am in denial if i don't say the big P Word out loud it won't be so.... i know its ridiculous- to answer ur question no he isn't an alcoholic- he has mental issues and is on disability for not being able to make important decision put in simple terms - he has a stress disorder and can't make up his mind- he is using that for a crutch i know- what am i gonna do- he only hurt me when she was around- he was never physically abusive- but i just don't know what to do or what to say at this point- he's my matty and i do love him- and yes ur right affairs aren't right- nobody is gonna bash u because of that - i regret getting involved with him and i just know i'm a horrible person and this torture is my punishment- i deserve it.... so once again- thanks for the advice - take care everyone and i'll try to do the same.....

deleted_user 01/16/2008

ohhh he was married when the relationshop started with you. i thought he married after you. fuck him!!!!!!!! let him lay in his cheating bed and light him on fire. LOL ever hear of the movie the burning bed. Yeah guys I know i need anger management class.

Im waiting for the cousin fucker to get out of jail so i can puke on him and punch him in the face.

deleted_user 01/16/2008

You are not a horrible person. We should talk. I was your age actually 23 when I was with the married guy he was 40. We should really talk. You are not horrible. Trust me, but it can mess you up.

RockNMetalChic 01/16/2008

yeah i can relate- i'm 24 and Matt is 40 - i was starting to make some real progress with moving forward and moving on and then he calls me !

deleted_user 01/16/2008

Awww I feel for you :) Its hard when you love someone. It clouds everything cos you so much want to believe everything that they have to say but be strong and dont let this man ruin your life cos sure as shit...thats what he will do :)

deleted_user 01/16/2008

Amen Kate It sure shit is what he will do. I lived it.

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