Shave the beard off. Smile when you greet people. Hair looks good. Also how are you talking with people - are your arms crossed or open and inviting. Are you square with the people. Do you look them in the eye? We give of hundreds of clues unknowingly. How do you feel when you meet people?

Maybe THEY are insecure:)

Before you posted this pic...I thought you looked quite handsome from your profile pic. Just to share...I am friends with a really pretty girl.

However...she doesn't think she's pretty. She gives off a "leave me alone" vibe or "I'm not friendly" vibe. She doesn't smile or even just grin at strangers...even if they are being nice? It's just a deer in headlights gaze and short replies if asked questions. Her body language is not very open...doesn't seem very relaxed and is always looking tense...and wary of people. So my question to you is...does any of this resonate with you?

She asked me how she could improve with her first impressions and appear more friendly...so we talked about it. She did some mirror work...looking at herself and trying to "grin" ...not a full face all teeth show...and worked on looking more engaged with her eyes...she has big beautiful eyes...which make it worst when you look fearful of others...but awesome when you are engaged with others.

If you take any pic and just add a grin, a little smile...people automatically find you more attractive...it's the approachability factor. Is this person going to receptive to me communicating with them.

As for just plain looks...I think you are very attractive. There is a Fibonacci ratio of facial structure. Your is close to an ideal structure. You have nice hair, well kept facial hair, and great skin. You also have nice eyes.

But you have to think what is my exspression? Genetics is probably 60% in attractiveness equation...but 40% I would say has to do with our exspression, friendliness, approachability?

I hope this helps a bit.

Sending you light and love.

I doubt the problem is your looks. This photo is of a handsome man, .. who is angry.

You are handsome. Maybe smile cuz this pic makes you look grumpy. I love the tinsel in your hair, it makes you look distinguished. :)

I think you are attractive. However, if I ran into you at the grocery store, or pumping gas, I would not feel comfortable saying "hello, how are you today". Your scowl says "leave me ALONE!".

I would go on a date with you if i was single.
But i prefer hang out in a group setting till i can get to know someone better then i can tell what their personality is like before committing to dating.

You have the same problem I do. Resting angry face. Otherwise you look pretty normal. I don't see a problem with the beard. But you are wearing a bit of a frown. You are also squinting your forehead/brow which contributes to the angry look. BTW, you look better above than in that avatar picture; that one is a little scary.

Another thing to consider is you might be wearing that angry face to keep people away so you can think you are ugly. But that is hiding the real reason, like maybe you are afraid they will reject you as a person. I'm not a psych doctor but I think this is worthy of some self reflection. 90% of what we communicate is non-verbal; as in tone of voice, facial expressions, body position, etc. Its impossible to keep track of all the cues you send. You need to work on being happy and content if you want to send the impression that you are happy and content. I know; its a nasty Catch 22.

Agreed, you just need a smile and some pleasant thoughts. I think you're reasonably good-looking, but have an intense look that could scare someone.

I think the avatar picture is better, you look sad, but not intense. I could see you as a pilot crisply telling people status of the flight.

Sorry for the third comment, but what you did was smart and I give you a lot of credit. You posted something, and gave people a way to provide some intelligent feedback which they did. Let me compliment on your ingenuity, you get better doing things like that.

Much better avatar pic!

You are a handsome man. Smiling or unsmiling you are

A big thanks to everyone here. This has been a big injection to my self esteme I grew up with many people that told me my whole life that I was ugly, horrid, and worthless. I wish I could have known all of you when I was younger.

I personally think you’re a very handsome man...but I must admit you don’t look very approachable in that picture. Your face says...don’t bother me...yet your eyes look very kind. I think you should smile more...I love the pic in your avi...you look much more approachable. Whoever said that you’re ugly seriously needs to get their eyes checked. I’m here if you need to talk. Xoxo