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chip513
chip513
Sorry guys I guess I posted in the wrong section.

.Has anyone experienced complete loss of interest in there spouse with a current depressive episode? My depression started summer 2012 and I got to the point where I couldn't stand to look at, talk to, or even be around my husband. (A lot of resentment for past issues). I moved out for a bit and am back now. I probably shouldn't have. Anyway I feel like he is so needy and smothering for me to show love and emotion. I don't feel it. So how can I show it. It is painful just for me to try and kiss him. I just have no interest. I could care less about having sex. We usually don't unless I have been drinking. Has anyone experienced this? Is it the depression or am I just checked out and need to move on ? Help
deleted_user
deleted_user
It's a normal reaction to depression. See your doctor and convey your feelings ! Maybe you are on the wrong meds...
deleted_user
deleted_user
I have been there and because of my depression I could never get back to where I was before I hope and pray you can over come this.
worldofblah4
worldofblah4
That has happened to me too. Hope you feel better soon, I changed meds and it helped.
gramybear
gramybear
I'm wondering if the depression is caused by the realization of how you feel about your spouse now and some of it is guilt mixed with anger. If you don't work through that resentment with him then your relationship is going to fall deeper and deeper into a hole and it will never come back. You can't show something that you honestly don't feel. It will only be phony and unfair to him. I think you need to really acknowledge what you feel for this man, and then let him know what those feelings are. You are only going to get more depressed, and it will be harder in the end. I hope it all works out for you and you will let us know how you are doing. Hugs GB
DepressedRecluse
DepressedRecluse
i must be weird...sex is the only interest my illness hasnt taken...

i enjoy the intimate moments we share even if they are few and far between...and the joy only lasts a few minutes but at least it is still there.
gramybear
gramybear
You are on the right road because at least you are able to acknowledge what is going on in your relationship. I really think that part of the problem is your depression, but maybe the depression is due to not wanting to admit how you really feel about the relationship?
I can't imagine trying to have a relationship with all of the feelings that you have for this person. It's not only not fair to you, but it's not fair to him either. Have you two sat down and talked about this? Have you been honest with him about what you are feeling? It's going to hurt, I'm sure, if he feels differently then you do. But honesty is so very important. Keep posting, I know you will get some answers to your questions from a lot of caring people. Hugs GB