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Not having a good few weeks :(

Jess1995x
Jess1995x

Hi guys, hope you are all okay. 
Basically these last few weeks I have been feeling really down about a lot of different things. 
Mainly my health issues, money and my future. All my friends are getting somewhere in life and I feel as though myself and my partner are stuck in a rut. 
Everytime I see a friend post that they are going on holiday, or moving into their own property, or having a baby, or getting engaged my heart sinks, I have this horrible feeling in my stomach, and I feel so bad about it, to the point where I am avoiding all my friends because it seems they are doing so well in life and we are struggling. We can't afford to do anything nice, go away, move into our own place. 
I have never been a jealous person but I feel I am turning into one and I hate it! Please don't judge me. I hate myself right now. 
I just want things to go right for us for once. I feel like shutting myself away from everyone, because I cannot stand to look at their happy posts on social media, bragging about how well they are doing. 
Everytime I see a post like it I burst into tears, I just can't cope anymore, I want things to go right for us for once. :( 
Please tell me I'm not the only one who feels like this?! Is this normal with depression, to feel jealous and angry that others are getting somewhere in life yet when we work so hard but can't do anything, not even a nice meal out once in a while. 
Its hurting so bad :( 

ARickinMarks
ARickinMarks
It is normal. Completely normal. Part of depression is the feeling of being alone and so to be surrounded by people who are happy and doing what they want makes you jealous. I think all of us have had this problem at one point or another.
sharaninmd
sharaninmd
What you are experiencing is normal for people who suffer with depression. I have struggle with depression and anxiety since I was a child. I have felt all of this and more. Are you seeing a doctor and/or a therapist or counselor? Try to think positive and spend your time with people who are positive. It will make you feel better than when you are around those who are negative. If you need to talk, please message me.
Heidiclark
Heidiclark
People here on this site often talk about avoiding social media for the exact reason you are talking about. Some of us already feel bad enough and don't need to be reminded how great other people's lives are compared to ours. And find things you and your partner can do that don't cost money like going to the library and checking out movies. Or go for a walk in the part together. Read a book together. You'l think of other things too.
Jess1995x
Jess1995x
Thank you all for your kind words, so relieved to read its not just me feeling this way, I have been so down about it all :( I want to be happy for my friends but it is so hard when I am on the darkest of places.
I am currently waiting on counselling and I have just been started on Amitriptyline as I also have chronic pain so they are hoping to help my pain and depression with the same medication.
Thanks again x
4nkrgg
4nkrgg
I don’t believe for a moment that you’re the only one feeling the way you do. We’re all guilty of comparisons finding we fall short, too. Just think for a moment if everyone were content with what they had in their given moment in their own “chapter of life.” There would be no one to compare ourselves with because everyone was content with what they had. One would have to admit that would make life easier. But impossible as that is, we can only decide for ourselves to stop the downward cycle. Social media only adds to our dilemma. Just believe that you are special and one of a kind. You’re here for a purpose. Life, really, is too short to worry about what others have and we don’t. Please don’t give in to all the social media hype. Turn your attention to the things you can be grateful for. Choose to live your day doing meaningful things. One day at a time. Please take care.
soulsearcher83
soulsearcher83
What Heidiclark said. I have had to avoid fb for that reason. I closed my account and made a new one for only a very few people. I have 17 "friends" now.

I feel embarassed by my life as well. I am choosing to move far away to start new where no one knows my past.. I wish you could do that to. But personally this is my last chance for a decent life.

Avoid fb while you guys focus on fixing your situation. Maybe see a financial planner or some other person who can help you with the finances. Best of luck.
Jess1995x
Jess1995x
Thank you for your kinds words,
I have decided to log out of social media for the time being, not deleted my account just logged out and my final status was to let people know that I am off social media for a bit to concentrate on getting myself physically and mentally better.
I am out of work at the moment due to a lot of different issues and illnesses but my one goal is to get back into work and bring some money in for myself and my partner.
Thanks again for your reassuring words it really does mean a lot x