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No one tells you

Anna1212
Anna1212

No one tells you that your family will be the ones to hurt you the most, even destroy you sometimes.  No one tells you how important money is or how much people hurt each other to get it, no one tells you that your looks matter more than who you are as a person and will determine in large part, especially if you are a woman, your destiny, or that when you get past 50 and you are a woman you will disappear.  No one tells you that being a good person and a hard worker doesn't guarantee you anything and in fact some of the shittiest people are the most successful in all ways.  No one tells you that you don't really ever get over grief, it just comes and goes and ebbs and flows.  Time isn't a healer but a thief.  No one tells you that you don't matter at all to anyone except those who love you, if you are lucky enough to have someone to love you.


you might not agree with all those things but I have this has been my experience. 


i'm in a foul mood today.

Thor2008
Thor2008
I learned in my PTSD that honesty and the truth do not matter.
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abcdefghijklmop1
I agree with your statements Anna.We live in a very suoerficial world were looks and money matter. However, we all know that those things don't make happiness.Happiness is well beyond that What is inside is what matters, the rest is an illusion that fades with time.Not everyone cares about superficial things.The key is to soround oneself with people that have the same world view.
Andromeda8
Andromeda8
HI Anna, you are liberated from your family, so their words cannot hurt anymore. This world is motivated by greed, we have to protect ourselves in order to survive. Your looks attract attention, but it is your personality, your life values and your kindness + compassion that retain the love and affection. In a world of men, we women fight for opportunities and space under the sun, and we stand our ground unflinched. Your destiny is yours to craft, no one can sway you from your path. Society overlook women over 50 yrs due to our age, so we diversify and honed our skills to stand apart from a sea of nobodies. Shallow persons like to gaff off to make themselves relevant, whilst conscientious workers demonstrate their worth with action and diligence to make themselves significant: I ask you, who has more worth? Grief permeates to the core and repeat, but the pain dulls and lessens over time. Time heals all when you are willing to let history lies in the dust. Your parents love you, your family love you, you and your family are irrevocably bound by blood and history, open your heart to your parents who want to love you. Forgive your family and let the past be the history that you will never look back. We your friends on the forum love you, and support you in your troubles.

Don't beat yourself up Anna. You have more worth than you have imagined.
maria718
maria718
That's what we learned years ago, it's the School of Hard Knocks as we go along. To meet a kind, nice down to earth person is almost impossible. And IF you do meet someone like that, people take kind nice and down to earth as a sign of weakness. People are mean, and Family can be terrible. I also have been hurt by my family very, very much, and still to this day I say to myself It doesn't have to be this way....but it is...
Just love yourself. Do your own thing. Never mind what other people think. Just know that you're decent, kind and a good person.
Lendingstrength2021
Lendingstrength2021
Anna1212,

You are beautiful to me. And we're not judging here - your words are true and real, not a foul mood. So often I'm told not to 'be so negative,' but why not acknowledge hard truths such as these? It's ugly, but maybe that's the first step in accepting them and making change in ourselves and also in society?
caring2018
caring2018
Sorry you are in a foul mood. When I feel that way I do everything I can do to change my mood. I used to struggle with those negative thoughts and feelings, but someone asked me how does that add value to my life. That made me realize I want to find ways to enjoy life and not see it as hopeless. Hope is what makes looking forward to tomorrow. I have these two exercises that help me. I hope you will find them encouraging and help you change your perspective. . The 557 breathing technique is take 5 deep breaths in while thinking good thoughts about yourself like life is good, I am joyful, I am happy and then hold the breaths for the count of 7 focusing on those words about yourself, then let out the breath slowly for 5 seconds letting go of any anxious, self-defeating, unhealthy thoughts. I do this one to three times a sitting. The gratitude journal is writing down something good every morning and night something that went well in the day, or something I appreciate about myself. Taking our focus off of the worries and concerns of life and focusing on positive uplifting things really helps. What you think is what you believe. So thinking uplifting things you believe those things but the reverse is true - thinking negative self-defeating things, you will believe those. I will be praying for you. Feel free to pm me if you'd like to chat. Hugs and God Bless
A-Hero-to-One
A-Hero-to-One
It's as if you wrote about my life! Just because someone shares DNA with us, doesn't automatically mean they are looking out for our interests, unfortunately. World can be a really painful place to be sometimes when you're an earnest, hardworking, and kind-hearted person. Don't give up on your values, hang in there, and try your best to find a balance between the values that matter to you, and the ones that seem to matter the sometimes hurtful world. There are good people out there.
caring2018
caring2018
How are doing? I have been praying for you. Hugs