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no no no not again.

imiru
imiru

I had just laid down to sleep when my mind started to wonder, I thought I was drifting into a dream but then I realized I was only drifting into negative thoughts again. I started thinking about what I'd do and say to my boyfriend if I ever found out that he cheated on me. I know he loves me and I love him, but he did confide in me and tell me he had a crush on one of his long time friends. She is beautiful and smart and the life of the party but she is a stoner, and he says thats the big reason why he just couldnt date her because he just coudlnt handle her getting high every other day. Also on the drive back to my place he kept bringing her up and saying that she liked him too a while ago but was respectful of their friendship then went on to say that when she wants someone she does whatever it takes even if she has to get a little slutty.....as if that was to make me feel better about the situation.  my boyfriend and I have a long distance relationship where we get to see each other maybe once a month so its hard enough as it is to stay positive. I'm trying my best to keep these horrible thoughts out and my depression from taking hold of me but its just so difficult I dont know if I can.

TooMuch
TooMuch
That would have me feeling super sad and paranoid too. :( if it were my relationship I would tell him that the way he talks about his friend worries me.

Try to focus on what you said, that he loves you, and think about something else. Believe me I know how hard that is though. Maybe distract yourself with a book or something? Good luck. I hope you can get your mind settled down soon.
UnBroken
UnBroken
Dealing with depression is hard enough but invoking negative thinking makes things even worst!

I am no expert in relationships but if you love and trust your boyfriend I think you should communicate with him how you feel about the situation.

You want to be able to trust your boyfriend just as he has trusted you so without accusations or assumptions as you welcome him opening up to you his feelings towards his long time friend is not only inappropriate but hurtful and tends to brings on feelings of insecurity leaving you questioning his faithfulness.

And as much as this might hurt a little reassure your boyfriend you only want to see him happy and if whatever or whomever he choses makes him happy then you are happy for him.

But no matter what try to remain positive within yourself and in your relationship while indirectly showing your boyfriend all the great attributes you have to offer and soon enough he'll realize on his own he made the right decision.

Hope this helps...
Gladdmatt
Gladdmatt
Long distance relationships are difficult to maintain, and if you're already prone to panic, anxiety, negativity, depression, and/or PTSD, it must be that much more difficult. In your situation I would be going crazy with fear of abandonment, obsessive thinking, and not being able to control the outcome. Meds and talk therapy can help, but if you're still feeling insecure and unhappy, you may want to think about the pluses and minuses of the relationship and decide what to do from there. You deserve real happiness and a true commitment from another person. He sounds very insensitive to keep bringing up someone else; does he know this hurts you? I'll pray for you.