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My biggest trigger is two faced people. What I mean is often I find myself in situations where, I feel really friendly, and talk to alot of people, I talk about things that make me happy, like my kid and listen to what they want to talk about. then I think, wow, that was nice, but everyone at work here, I mean EVERYONE, seems twofaced. I talk to someone and whomever that person is, after the conversation they go running to one of two people here at work. We'll call those two people sniper one and sniper two. so I have a conversation that I think is good and I feel happy, but then that person will go to snipers 1 and 2 and speak in hushed voices, I can't hear what's being said, and lots of loud laughing and snorting happens. This seems to happen every where to me, in all cases other than around my immediate family. I have never been able to figure out what I'm doing wrong, that people don't respect me and don't take me seriously, and treat me like I'm something less than human. I don't know what I say that is so fucking hilarious either. I hate this part of my life, and I don't know what the cause is, other than trusting the wrong people, and when you can't trust not ONE person around you, I mean, I can't live like that.
You will probably consider my comments to be "mean", but gossip is a reflection of those who gossip - not the subject of the gossipers. And unless you are sharing personal matters with your co-workers, this is not a matter of mis-placed trust.
If you are sharing anecdotal stories about your kid or what you did over the weekend, it's just talk. I doubt your life is so interesting to others they feel compelled to repeat and report your actions to others. Again, you have no idea what they are talking about. It is very presumptuous to think it is about you.
Besides, it is none of my business what others think of me or what they say about me.
On the other hand, the point that maybe not every time you think they are talking about you they are, is also likely true.
About trust, I've heard it said, "When someone shows you who they are, believe them." So if you learned that person 1 and 2 are not trustworthy, then you now know that about them. It probably won't work to ignore them, but I would stop sharing anything except the most vague information. You can still be polite. Stop feeding the wolf and it will go away.
Scarclan, yeah, its' just weird how like right after I walk away from a conversation with certain people here, the first thing they do is go to person 1 or 2 here, start talking in hushed voices and laughing and being really loud and obnoxious.
yard, the people I am referring too only work 40% of the time, but they get all this praise from upper management. Small town rules, one has parents who are very wealthy and are members of the country club, and the other is new, but has disliked me from the first day she came here, I have NO IDEA why other than she seemed to have an infatuation with my supervisor, who is a young male. that's the only reason I can think of. You're right about my life not being that interesting, I dont think it is, but there have been converstations I HAVE HEARD, that could have only been about me, and that person was imitating my voice, saying the exact same words i said to someone else. I don't speak to either of them no more than I have too.