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my mom's house

Diane-M
Diane-M
handing over the keys to the new owner at 3:30. Both my brother and I own homes, and neither of us wishes to be a landlord, yet it feels like I am losing another family member.

I have been upset all day, because of the finality of it all. Growing up and old, losing people...it all really sucks...even if death IS normal.


I don't HAVE to be at the closing. He is the executor and told me it is up to me if I want to go. But even though we are having problems, I cannot let my brother do the closing alone. I have to believe that all these losses are affecting him on some level, even though he shows very little emotion.

I have to get a grip...my crying in front of him and others seems to make him uncomfortable. I am promising myself that I can fall apart once it is over and i am home.
gramybear
gramybear
I will keep you in my prayers sweet lady and I'm also sending you lots of hugs and strength!! Hugs
Community LeaderThePepperMan
ThePepperMan
It is hard, but you will survive this!

Continuing hugs
survivor69
survivor69
THE HOUSE MUST HAVE FOND MEMORIES 4 U BOTH.
I WENT THRU THE SAME THING WITH MY MOM, BUT SHE IS IN A NURSING HOME.
GBU
DRENA
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heatherhurts
heatherhurts
Wishing you some peace of mind. You are a strong woman. You can do this. (((((HUGS)))))
mollgirl
mollgirl
I am thinking of you. Hugs.
TroJanThunder
TroJanThunder
Giving up a family home and knowing you can never go in it again is a very painful experience. I often wonder what is going on in the homes I have lost. Do the ppl love my placer the way I did? Are they keeping the places up well or trashing them?
Heidiclark
Heidiclark
How did the closing go? Are you doing okay? Sending love, hugs, and prayers.
Diane-M
Diane-M
I had hoped it would move quicker than it did. But the buyer's name was misspelled on the paperwork, and everything needed to be reprinted, and the computer went down. So we sat there for a long time. I got through it all with a smile, but was in tears the minute we hit the sidewalk. Much to my surprise, the conversation Jim and I had by our cars indicated to me that he is struggling a little with all the losses we have gone through. He seemed so emotionless up until now. So I am glad I was there with him. The couple that bought the place are very nice. There was an big old piano we left behind . It was too big to get out .....the porch was reconfigured after it was moved in. They smiled and said their young nephew will enjoy it tremendously. That is giving me some peace....knowing the house will be full of music....
billwfriend
billwfriend
that sounds great that the piano will give u peace that someone else can learn to play and fill it with music....and maybe even make their entire life around that piano and being a musician making records and millions of sales of those....you never know....but it is all good....also glad brother opened up a bit to you....

me we are getting to point where moms house is falling apart and no amount of fixing is going to be done really except a band aid solution...like now the heater in the main family room....it went bad....leaked gas...so it was 45yrs old it is toasted and cannot be replaced either....need new solutions....we have a new quartz heater in there that will warm the room up a bit but is not totally practical....furnace man wants to wait till his father the owner of company comes home from Florida in 3-4weeks to take on any new ways of fixing our problem and one that I know would work mom is against because it means cutting thru the floor which is beautiful hard wood in the living room next to fireplace on both sides and ducting into that room which has no ducts and a concrete floor....I said cover the ducts with wooden boxes and paint them white like the trim....it would be acceptable to me and I am sure the rest but mom does not want to cut thru floors even when it would put the furnace and AC both into that room which has neither heat now or AC she opens two french doors on both sides of fireplace and turns on fans to get cool air into that room in summer......uggh woman it can be much better and your going to die before long and do not worry about your floors....the place needs heat and ac both with easiest solution....

for now I am going shopping tomorrow for electric fireplaces that will hold a TV that we can move couch across room and put up against that back fireplace wall in the family room which is solid brick wall painted white....the couch is against it now but can go across room to open that fireplace wall up for no fire zone for the electric fireplaces I am shopping for tomorrow morning...I will take pictures of them at Menards and send them text to sister to show mom with prices and see if she agrees to that now....it would move tv close enough she will be able to read baseball scores on tv screen too! LOL that is my selling points.....LOL
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