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My life is falling apart

rac146
rac146
School has always been that thing I've been good at. I love learning, projects, writing, reading. I finished my liberal arts degree last semester and started working for my sustainability degree this fall. This is my passion and intrest, what I really want to do. So why am I failing so hard at it. I'm missing assignments, forgetting exams. I missed a take home exam that was due this week. Just completely forgot about it. Worth 30 points of my grade. All the stress, all the depression and changes I've been dealing with are ruining the one thing I had left. Its hard for me to even get to school with no car and all the stress with my broken arm and that not healing properly and my job being weird about it and the stress of not having a way to work when I do go back and the stress of me not getting my disability checks, not having money to even feed myself with...living has become a day to day thing. I lack motivation. I have a constant sick feeling in my stomach and a frequent tightness in my chest (not full blown panic attacks, just tightness that doesn't go away) I either don't sleep at night or I sleep to much. I'm always tired. I hate this.
deleted_user
deleted_user
It sounds like you are under a great deal of stress, both emotional and physical. Do you have someone you can talk to in the Real World? I realize with your finances that a therapist is probably out of the question, but do you have a good friend or someone who can help you? Do you have the option of moving in with family until you can get your finances settled? I'm trying to think of things that may help. Can you take an incomplete this semester and finish up next year? I did that once, and it really helped.

I wish I had more suggestions for you. Just know you can come here as often as you need to, to vent. There is usually always someone on here, if you need to chat.

Annie
BlueYonderDreams
BlueYonderDreams
I don't know anything about college, but taking an incomplete as AnnieOakley suggested sounds like a good idea. If you can take a break from school and remove one of the stresses in your life temporarily you might feel a little better and can focus on healing.
etherize
etherize
What about a school counselor (therapist)? I saw one in college and it didn't cost me anything.

You are definitely under way too much stress. I'm not surprised at all that you forgot an exam; I know I would if I were in your situation.

The thing is, as Annie pointed out, school doesn't have to be done right now. I think you need to take care of your basic needs -- getting your arm healed, getting your disability checks, going back to work and getting enough money for food and rent. Nobody could deal with school when they have all those other things up in the air.

You are 22. If you took a semester off, or even a year, it wouldn't hold you back much at all. Trying to do it now with all this other stuff is just going to make you feel worse, because it's pretty much impossible to be good in school with all that other stuff going on.

Do you have any friends or family that can help you get a handle on some of these situations?

{{{{{hugs}}}}}
gramybear
gramybear
With all the stress that you are under, it's no wonder that you are forgetting things and not taking care of business. Do you have a friend from school that can take you to school? Could you leave notes around your house to remind you that you have a test, you have work to bring back to school, etc? I would hate to see you lose what you are so good at. Maybe start a journal in the morning with all positive thoughts and things you have to remember to do that day. I feel like the depression is getting in the way of your happiness and won't let you do what you want to do. It's important that you stay clear of that dark hole and keep the devil as far away as possible. You are really tired and it sounds like both physical and emotional. Have you had blood tests to see if you have anemia? And are you seeing a therapist to help you with all these problems that you are going through? I hope you find the answers soon because you do have a lot going for you. We are here to support you so please remember that hon, okay? hugs.
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