Can you share what you are going through? We are here to support you! Hugs

Often our desires are based on what other people want for us, or maybe we desire what we think will impress other people. Often our desires aren't even OUR desires, and we beat ourselves up for not getting what we don't even really want. When that happens, it really is a joke.

If that is the case for you, like it was for me for so long, then consider it good news that you finally woke up instead of feeling bad that you're not pleasing other people. Figure out what your true desires are and put more energy into them. Doubly so if nobody understands or appreciates your true desires.

sorry you feel this way....have you made the action toward achieving any kinds of goals? I did and am happy I did it great helped me feel better about me but I did not move up actually moved down upon doing so....but the freedom down here is wonderful compared to pressure moving up....

thanks for the comments, they did help, and I'm feeling better today.

I just had a really bad feeling because I expressed my interest in moving up in a "stay interview" and I felt like my supervisor was making fun of me behind my back about it the next day. It was really traumatic, Crazy huh? I mean so much worse can happen to us than just having someone laugh at us. Why I let it hit me so hard, well I guess cause I really do want to move up as opportunities come, and I want it more than life itself sometimes.

scooby, it could have something to do with wanting to impress other people, but it also has to do with my wanting to be in control, in charge, and I want to take care of other people.

You're RIGHT to want to "move up" and OUT, of corporate America altogether, fire that supervisor from your life and be YOUR OWN supervisor, YOUR OWN boss, be in charge of YOUR OWN life and productivity, make ALL the money profit instead of a pittance of a salary filtered down from higher-ups! I don't know what business you're in, but any way to free-lance in it or some other small business on the side without it being a conflict of interest and jeopardizing the cush of that job's steady salary? Running your own business demands a certain amount of hours, has its share of ups and downs and makes filing taxes more complicated, but it does eek out additional money when it's there and you can write off a lot of what would otherwise just be living expenses as business expenses to reduce your taxes.