Why would you think its your fault? Depression is a chemical imbalance in the brain, it has nothing to do with you.

The only thing you can do is help him understand that he needs to be doing his treatment, which is meds and Therapy, unless he does those he won't get any better.

F0r you, it sounds like seeing a Therapist wouldn't hurt either. You have some blame in this that shouldn't be there, you need to talk to someone about that.

I agree with the others. It's not your fault, Honey.

Welcome indeed to DS and this group.

He needs to get the following ... except he VERY LIKELY won't accept it if it comes from you. Don't know how else to help you.


Dear kaylea's' fiancee,

There is evidence you are suffering from Clinical Depression. You should know how destructive this is and will become without some medical treatment. It can and usually does destroy relationships, careers, prosperity, and even life itself.

It is highly TREATABLE ... and MOST OFTEN REQUIRES medication which is prescribed by a mental health professional (DOCTOR). Clinical depression has to do with physiochemistry within the brain and it is VERY widespread. Medication is the leading treatment for it world wide.

I have been on medication(s) for it for decades ... and it has saved my life.

If you do not attain effective treatment for it, your future is one of devastation in my opinion. Chances of a good marriage are slim. The pain and difficulty put forth on you and your partner is immeasurable.

This can ALL be prevented with the right treatment from the medical profession. The sooner you seek and attain that, the better. Otherwise ... you future misery awaits you and anyone associated with you.

Trust me, .. I know what I am talking about.

Sincerely,
WV

I'm sorry that you are feeling this way and going through what you are. First and foremost, his depression is not your fault. Please believe that! There are so many things that can contribute to depression and most often it's NOT one single person. It could be a chemical imbalance in the brain. It could be a recent traumatic/negative event. It could be unresolved issues from the past. it could be a combination of all of it! This is not your fault. The best you can do for him is encourage him. Let him know you are standing by his side and let him know he doesn't have to go through this alone. I would also encourage him to seek professional help. If it is a chemical imbalance he may need medication. At the very least, they can give him the tools he needs to cope with whatever is contributing to his depression. Again, this is not on you, don't buy the lie that it is! I don't know your spiritual beliefs, but I will be praying for you and your boyfriend!