I really need advice.  I posted this in another group but wanted to see if any of you can help me as well. My boyfriend of over 5 years has been very depressed.  Pretty much through the whole relationship and probably before me.  It has just been getting worse.  His health isn't well.  He has been having bad stomach issues for a few years now and is in almost constant pain and its getting worse.  His drinking has been increasing to where he drinks everyday.  He decreased his days at work to only two a day because he said it was too stressful.  He is irritable all the time.  Never wants to go do anything except sit in his room smoking a drinking or going to the bars with his friends.  He has been saying he wants to just leave the state to get away from everyone and at first I thought it was him just saying it due to being stressed.  Tonight he basically told me he is going to move away.  He's tired of everyone and everything and wants to get away from the bullshit.  This means he is moving away from me too and he said Im part of the problem.  He said he wants NO responsibilty and nothing to hold him from doing whatever he wants to do.  I asked him if this was just his way of breaking up with me because he doesn't love me anymore and he said it wasn't that.  He said he will always love me and that Im his soul mate but he isn't happy.  So the man that I have stood by for so long through all of his depression throughout the years, been through him cheating, his alcohol problems and all the craziness his life has been is now leaving me.  We aren't broken up yet but he said he will be leaving soon.  He saved up a little money and wants to just leave.

Has anyone here dealt with a breakup due to their partner's depression?  Im having a really hard time understanding this because from where I sit, his life doesn't seem that horrible to me.  I feel he is the reason it is the way it is.  He hates living with his sister but he put himself there.  He hates his job, most people do.  His body hurt but he is causing a lot of issues by not taking care of himself.  I do feel he is in a horrible depression and he is walking away from not only me but his friends here and his family.  Is there anything i can do to make his see what he is doing, what he is giving up?  Is a change a good thing if you are depressed?  I feel he carries his issues with him and no matter where he goes, there is going to be bullshit to deal with.  He blames everyone around him for some reason.  

I am so heartbroken.  I have been through three breakups with him before which I had to walk away from him because he was affecting me.  I don't know how I am going to move forward after this.  I have very bad adbandonment issues and I feel him leaving is going to put me over the edge.  I have never put so much sweat, and tears into anyone in my whole life and he is still leaving anyway.  I don't know what to do.  I want to help him but don't know how.  I think the only option I have is to let him leave.  I am so hurt!