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I took some time away from DS.. and when I came back it seems a lot had changed. And not for the better.
First off, I noticed that some very special and dear people to me are gone.
But that`s not what I am most concerned about right now.
What I am most concerned about is that I have come back to DS to find a lot of negativity - mostly revolving around accusations of people having multiple accounts. I`ve seen people being called trolls who I am not so sure the term should apply to.
I`m not going to point out particulars. I`m not going to name names. I just want to throw some of my thoughts out there - do with them what you will.
Let`s assume that some of the people being accused of having multiple accounts really DO have multiple accounts - or are now using a new name after being banned - whatever the situation may be.
Is it possible that the reason for this is because the person(s) wanted a fresh start at DS? It`s no unknown fact that there always have been and always will be people who clash with one another on these boards - sometimes these clashes get so nasty that it leads to people being banned, or people pointing fingers calling each other trolls, despite the fact that we are all here for support (except the ones that really are trolls of course..)
Luckily, I haven`t had to deal with too severe of clashes - but I have had friends leave because they no longer felt welcome. I`ve had friends leave because they could no longer make any posts or any replies without being attacked or made to feel like they had no right to voice their opinions and views. I wonder how many of those friends have come back under new names in order to start fresh?
Maybe I`m not making much sense right now, and maybe this is just me rambling... but essentially what I am trying to get across is that I think we could all benefit from a little more understanding and a lot less negativity.
If you suspect someone is using multiple accounts and that bothers you - ignore that person.
If the person you suspect is making constructive posts - is there a need to respond to EVERY post of theirs `calling them out`? Unless they`re actually hurting anyone, I don`t see the need for it.
The part that makes me sad, and genuinely hurts me to see, is that a good lot of this negativity is coming from people I really like, and see as good people - not the type of people who would stir up drama..
First off, I noticed that some very special and dear people to me are gone.
But that`s not what I am most concerned about right now.
What I am most concerned about is that I have come back to DS to find a lot of negativity - mostly revolving around accusations of people having multiple accounts. I`ve seen people being called trolls who I am not so sure the term should apply to.
I`m not going to point out particulars. I`m not going to name names. I just want to throw some of my thoughts out there - do with them what you will.
Let`s assume that some of the people being accused of having multiple accounts really DO have multiple accounts - or are now using a new name after being banned - whatever the situation may be.
Is it possible that the reason for this is because the person(s) wanted a fresh start at DS? It`s no unknown fact that there always have been and always will be people who clash with one another on these boards - sometimes these clashes get so nasty that it leads to people being banned, or people pointing fingers calling each other trolls, despite the fact that we are all here for support (except the ones that really are trolls of course..)
Luckily, I haven`t had to deal with too severe of clashes - but I have had friends leave because they no longer felt welcome. I`ve had friends leave because they could no longer make any posts or any replies without being attacked or made to feel like they had no right to voice their opinions and views. I wonder how many of those friends have come back under new names in order to start fresh?
Maybe I`m not making much sense right now, and maybe this is just me rambling... but essentially what I am trying to get across is that I think we could all benefit from a little more understanding and a lot less negativity.
If you suspect someone is using multiple accounts and that bothers you - ignore that person.
If the person you suspect is making constructive posts - is there a need to respond to EVERY post of theirs `calling them out`? Unless they`re actually hurting anyone, I don`t see the need for it.
The part that makes me sad, and genuinely hurts me to see, is that a good lot of this negativity is coming from people I really like, and see as good people - not the type of people who would stir up drama..
i think this is a good vent, and ur right alot of the oldies have gone and it sucks! whether they have come back under a new name and only told their closest friends i do not know.
im glad ur back and hope ur break was ok. hugs.x
I wanted to say that myself but was not motivated enough to make a topic on that. I completely agree with you.
In a way when 'good people' are going to war they act exactly like the 'bad people' that the 'good people' call wrong. So the way how to be on the good side is by not playing with 'bad people' rules but trying to stop the war.
I can't trust them.
Niki
to play games by using other accounts would be a huge disrespect to those coming here for help each day. the least we can all do for each other is be who we actually are. still, this will always happen. it has the entire time i have been here.
there are many here i trust. i take those and feel good to know i can confide in them. i add more to my list all the time. integrity is free. a trait i have to have for myself in life. trust once broken is very difficult to repair. i hope anyone that practices deception will think about the harm it has done in the past.
i have seen people come back and make a new account. get the trust of many and then once again explode in time. once again they have gained the trust of many. using the information gained to once again hurt already hurting people.
these are the saddest times for me. if a person has had a bad past here i would suggest they try and start all over. by starting over this would mean starting over with a new outlook. one that has forgiven those they feel hurt them. those they have hurt. start all over as if this were their first time here. then offer help and support... real help and support that comes from the heart..
peace to all....
Archimedes, I pretty much know you are you, because of the way you use language and the more or less total lack of grammatical errors in your posts, LOL.
If they are SO concerned that outside people will find them out, then perhaps it was never a good idea to be here (or any online board) to start with.
I feel for those who are hounded by people who pursue them or hunt them...that SUCKS a lot.
but it does not justify deceiving people....at all.
For example:
1) IF someone started a new account to "hide" from someone IRL who was out to do them harm, why did they keep multiple account open?
2) Why did they deliberately use two or more accounts to be "nice" to someone with one account while using the other account(s) to be actively nasty to the same person (sometimes on the same thread)?
3) Why did they post something with one account and then use other accounts to REPLY to the original post?
4) Why did they use multiple accounts to attack someone who didn't agree with them?
5) Why didn't they come clean until they were call out?
Too many suspicions, not enough answers. It is BEST to avoid these people at all times. They have gotten this far by actively manipulating others. Once caught, they will continue to manipulate others.
The old posts are ALL here for anyone who would like to know a little bit more. That's the beauty of this site, trolls DO leave a history that they can NOT erase. Why in the world would anyone risk being friends with someone like this just so that they can be screwed? Why risk it?
Some people close their accounts, then come back. This is different, as long as they don't do this to avoid being banned.
I have no problem with people having multiple accounts as long as they do not use them to abuse people.
Here is one reason that was disclosed to me by a user. They had an emotional problem that they were very embarrassed by, so they used a second account when participating in the support group for that issue. Perhaps they have gotten past the embarrassment part by now, or moved on, or maybe they are still using two accounts. But the point is that they did not use the two account thing to abuse people.