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moving up from sadness to anger

imiru
imiru

So I recently found out I've been doing so well managing my sadness. Talking more about my feelings and using coping methods that alot of you suggested :). But now I've been feeling bitterness, some hate and mostly annoyance towards myself, my ex and other people fo no good reason. My usual methods for dealing with depression arnt working well with these new feelings of anger. Does anyone have any suggestions?


I normally:


go for a walk


listen to music


watch funny videos


but none of that seems to be working. I still carry this buring desire to lash out and make people hurt the way I hurt and I dont want that!

TooMuch
TooMuch
Hugs!

I think that is maybe natural? I am in the midst of difficult times with my SO and boy I can be filled with such anger sometimes, so much bitterness and blame, and honestly I feel a little relieved by it because it seems to replace the blasted depression for a little while. So I revel in it just a little bit, while not acting on it of course, because it can be nice to feel something other than sad, self loathing, and guilty for a little while.

Ideas off the top of my head:

Writing angry letters (let it all out!) and burn them
Listen to different music than usual (angry music!)
Journal.
Run instead of walk.

Good luck!
mega54
mega54
I have found that when anger is too big and I have no desire to reconcile with the object of it that a fantasy can help. When I left my EX, that was the case. I wanted him to suffer. The worst death I could imagine was for him to become immune to the Law of gravity. I pictured him trying to hold on to tree branches as he floated upwards, knowing that if he got too high there would be no air for breath. It was the slowest and scariest death I could imagine. I would also vent some of my anger every time I saw a male that reminded me of him. If the man was out of hearing range I would say, "There is an ugly one." meaning an Ugly SOB. If they were close enough to hear me, I said it in my head. It hurt nobody and helped me.
I have trouble with anger . I find myself uncomfortable with knowing the difference between being assertive and aggressive. That makes it difficult to know what is alright to do in response to being angry. Sometimes you can choose to let anger go; other times, you need to take some action. Even if that action is just to choose to sooth yourself.
Good luck.