Depression Support Group

Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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Emmaneedshelp 10/02/2019

I feel that my life is meaningless. I'm in college but don't see myself becoming anything in life. I'm in college but don't see myself as an adult. and eventually having an adult career. Even though I don't want to grow up and become something, right now I need to feel like I matter. I need to do something. my good friend is in Mexico on a faith trip, helping and with a group of people spreading light and love. I feel very happy for her. she is a wonderful and amazing loving person. thinking of her makes me think of myself and how im not doing anything helpful in the world. I've been so focused on myself and in a way I'm still being selfish trying to find more ways to distract myself but I just want to feel like I'm a good person. I feel like I'm stuck. I just need an activity or some type of project to help me forget about my birthday coming up. my birthday has been stressing me out so much. I never thought I would still be alive but I am. and it's stressing me out thinking I have a long life ahead of me. I just need to stop thinking and focus on something or someone. I want to be a good person

Polkafly 10/02/2019

The hard part in college I think is transitioning to adulthood. It's hard and can be so confusing as you're expected to know your next steps, when in reality, it doesn't always work like that.

You say you feel like you want to do something better. Are you able to volunteer somewhere nesr to you for example in a soup kitchen, charity shop (thrift store). Do you like working with elderly, adults or children? May be worth looking into seeing which volunteer work would suit you best to give you that sense of purpose.

Scaredandafraid 10/02/2019

Part of being helpful is also helping yourself because no matter how often your helping everyone else, that void will still be within you. I only say that because i know from personal experience. You will try harder and help more and more and it will eventually come to a head. You are a good person. The only one that believes you are not is yourself. . i pray you are able to find that peace and comfort. You are young and you have a purpose. Instead of trying to figure out what it is, take the journey and discover it when it comes

Kingsolomon66 10/03/2019

I have no doubt you are a good person. I just wish for your happiness and serenity. You are a wonderful person and a inspiration to many. As an artist, when I draw sometimes there picture looks so very incomplete and I want to give up but I push through with the desire to see the finished work even if I'm not sure where it's going. Keep hope, keep faith Emma and opportunities will present themselves to you

reaThua9 10/03/2019

You're onto something smart, wanting to focus on others and do better things with your time.
I definitely suggest volunteering, as @Polkafly said. Any of those places are great options to get involved with. Also if you're a member of a church then they probably have ministries where you can invest yourself in others. A church may also help you find some of that purpose you're seeking.
God bless

patti22 10/03/2019

College is hard. Virtually everyone stumbles a few times. Key is getting up again, evaluating what went wrong and trying again. (Take notes. Someday in interviews, these will be the "challenges" that they ask about how you overcame them. Seriously...interviewers often LIKE people who have stumbled a few times.)

mherr25 10/03/2019

It is okay to focus on yourself and getting your life in order. You can only help others to the best of your ability once you have helped yourself! You are young, there is nothing wrong with taking time to figure out what you want to do in life and who you are. It is not selfish or wrong. College is hard, a lot of people have a difficult time transitioning. I sure did! Just try to enjoy each phase of your life as best as you can as it goes by quickly.

Heismercy 10/03/2019

Hi, You mention that you are good friends with the girl in Mexico and she is an inspiration. You are putting a lot of stress on yourself, looking for that one thing that you think will normalize you and be your breakout moment. That’s a lot of pressure. If your friend is on a faith trip then she probably goes to church somewhere. We can only grow with the help of others. Go with her on Sunday. See if you find your way. If you stick with it I’m sure you will feel significant. You do not need to do “that one thing” to feel loved and certainly not to feel important. That comes with a relationship. You will find that in church on Sunday and I believe your friend can help. Just spend some time with her to see what makes her tick. We are not meant to go through life alone.

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