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I'm so sick of my family. I just wish they would die and that includes my brother. I've asked my mom again and again to stay out of our lives but she just does whatever she wants and is so convinced that I need her and want her in my life when I don't. Now there is a girl living on my mom's property in a small apartment and she recently told me that she is being verbally abused by both my mom and my brother and that she feels trapped there. Naturally I want to help her is I can but at the same time I have my own problems and don't really know what I can do to help this person other than to just listen and try to be supportive. This person is also my brother's girlfriend also he mistreats her terribly and she wants to move and not tell him where she is. And of course I shouldn't be surprised that my family tell this person things about me and my illness as she said to me on the phone the other day that I didn't seem like I was crazy, and yes she used the word crazy, so I'm assuming that's the word they are using when they talk about me. They are just so low and so wicked. I hate these people and what they have done to my life. They are arrogant, backstabbing, and cruel. The good part is that my brother might be moving to another state and I hope he goes and never looks back. I have my husband and my son now who are my family. I know it's only three us but we are trying to make it in this world as best as we can. Anyway, I just can't hold this all in any more. I have to get it out somehow if I can. I hate to bother people here at DS who already have so many problems and I suually don't post about my own problems but rather just try to help others, but I can only take so much before I can't take it any more. My mom just shows up here whenever she wants and was here yesterday because it was my birthday thirsday. Well, I acted all nice and appreciative and all that crap but it's just an act. I can't stand this woman and I just wish she would stay out of our lives. Thanks for listening.....
It sounds like your birth family is pretty toxic. Please don't feel ashamed about asking for help here. That's why we're all here -- to ask for help. I wish I had some answers for you, or at least suggestions of things to try. It's hard staying away from folks who won't stay away from you. I know when I had to stay away from my folks for a while, I was living 2 1/2 hours away, so it was fairly easy to keep some distance. Could you try setting up some rules, like call before you come. Then you could arrange not to be home when they come. Just tell them that you have errands to run and it's not a good time for them to come over. Just a suggestion. I don't know your situation, so I don't know if that would work or not. Maybe it'll give you ideas that you can try.
Again, please don't feel bad about asking for help. That's why we're all here.
Annie