Depression Support Group

Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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22hope1227 04/14/2015

I have been depressed for some time now. I didn't want to admit to it thinking I could beat it. i don't think I can anymore. I have been in a negative spiral since August 2014. I have a good educational background and still can't find a job or seem to get my life together.

I left my home town to be with my girlfriend in a new place because she got a really good job. We were dating for two years and I was/still am in love with her. So I went with her. I wasn't able to find a job and when I did it turned out to be another bad fit for me like the last one. I wasn't able to make friends because of my working hours. All I had was her and it didn't even seem like I had her because we had an opposite schedule and we barely saw each other. She worked 9 to 5 and I worked 2 to midnight or later and on weekends.

I started to become more and more depressed and miserable. I kept job searching everyday. I stopped supporting my girlfriend and blamed her for things that weren't her fault. I became immature and negative about everything.

She broke up with me saying she fell out of love with me and doesn't like the person I have become. She told me I used to be a beautiful happy human. She won't give me another chance and she won't talk to me. I tried to talk to her and told her I will get help.

I'm even more depressed. I'm now living at home with my parents with no job. I feel worthless and losing all hope. She was the only light I had and it's all my fault. I just don't know if I can fight this anymore. I have nothing but pain. Pain I never felt before. I can't take it any longer.

Are there others that feel this way? What can I do?? I have tried talking to friends and family and even seeing someone but it seems to make it worse. I don't feel like I deserve to even be here anymore.

alanav21 04/14/2015

You definitely deserve to be here, there's a reason everyone is on this earth. August of last year was extremely tough for me too. I'm sure you've already heard this or don't want to hear it, but if your girlfriend wasn't willing to stick with you, support you, and help you through your time of need, she wasn't the one for you. Even with my own depression, I continue to stick with my daughter's dad, even though we're not together, because he has PTSD and needs a lot of support too. It's not easy, but there are people out there who will stand by you and let you lean on them when you need it.

All that said, don't give up. Keep up the job search, I know something will come along that will be a good fit for you. To me, it sounds like you're not ready for another relationship, you should take some time to work on yourself and get things sorted out. I'll send you positive thoughts, and I wish you the best.

inspirehopeblog 04/14/2015

1. You do deserve to be here. You have more love to give and get and it WILL come when you are ready. 2. So many of my friends + my husband who are extremely educated and have job experience are not employed or underemployed. Several of them are also living with their parents. Unfortunately this is common! 3. Read the book the Untethered Soul by Michael Singer to get your head straight so you can thrive in a relationship in the future. My husband has stuck with me through a lot of depressive episodes. There are people out there who will stick around and love your flawed self. 4. Check out http://inspirehopeblog.com for support and specific steps you can take to get past your struggle. IT WILL HELP, I promise. Hang in there. Hang in there!

iamreallyagem 04/15/2015

My belief is there is a reason for everything, one day you will know why things happened the way they did. you deserve someone that will be there for you through good times and bad. I hope that you will see this one day. do not worry if you have changed, just keep changing for the better. you will find the right job for you and it will work with your schedule. I believe this will happen for you.

muskrattiger 04/15/2015

we are all here for a reason and there will never be a nother one like us ....so ..you belong here ......I think you realy need to go and get that help for depreshion if you haven't already ....councoling or see a phicatrist ....I see a phicitrist and ..I found him better for getting me on the right meds for me and ...he dident just push meds ..we took it slow ...........depreshion ...comes to a point when you just can't help your self with out help ...so you need to go get that help not for anyone else but for your self ....talking to family and friends will get you no ware fast ..because unless someone has experanced real depreshion they can't even imagin what we go through ....and will say stupid things to us ..make us feel bad ....you ...need to talk in here ware you will be understood and not judged .....so you are in the right place ......we also need to talk ..everything that has ever hurt us has to come out ....and that is what is good about a counclour or a phicitrist ..they are not alowed to repeat anything you tell them ....so it is a safe place to talk ......there are so many people in your position who can't find a job ..or a good enough job to look after them selves ..and ..I know just through my experance that my children ..both parents have to work ...to stay a flot .....for that you just need to keep putting the resamays in ...and if you can get to go to get more schooling ...for somthing diferant ...you might have a better chance ...but I don't think you are .in shape for that yet .....so you realy need to look after your self and get all the help you can get .................................I will keep you in my prayers .....take care ..God bless

MMP1 04/15/2015

Part of what you're experiencing is grief. You've experienced a loss of a loved one in a way. Grief is complex and complicated. You're going to have to give yourself time. I know that's easier said than done, but it's true. Grief just takes time.

Looking for a job is difficult for anyone, and even harder if you're already dealing with depression. Again, it's going to take time.

You are going through a lot right now. I'm so sorry. Sometimes life just piles things on us. You need to focus on you. Get support where you can. If talking makes it worse, then don't talk. That's okay. Sometimes just being around other people is all you need - a presence so to speak. The pain you feel will gradually lessen. You are going to make it.

22hope1227 04/15/2015

Thank you for your support. I am seeing someone and talking to someone. I just wish I could talk to her and if she be willing to try again I can show her it would be different.

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