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GreenEyes727
GreenEyes727

I live one day at a time.  I was never much of a dreamer.  I wasn't the little girl dreaming of her wedding day.  I didn't have plans for a career or college.  I did go to college part-time for secretarial science for 1.5 years but my OCD ended that.  I got into my career as a legal secretary after inviting my Mom to go shoe shopping with me.  We stopped at a yard sale.  My Mom bought a piece of furniture that she had to pick up later with my Dad.  My Mom was talking to the lady having the yard sale and she said she was a legal secretary.  My Mom told her that she wished I had a nice job like that.  I was working in a factory, coming home dirty and exhausted every day.  The lady said to send me in for an interview because her law firm was hiring.  So that's how I became a legal secretary, supposedly picked out of 52 applicants.  Then I went out on disability on January 19, 2019.  Who knew that I would have so many problems performing my job.  Who knew that I would become a hall monitor at a school and would love it?  If I hadn't lost weight and joined Planet Fitness, I would not be able to do this job.  Who knew when I broke up with a boyfriend in June of 1995 that I would still be alone?  Who knew that I would reach a point that I was okay with being alone?  So I don't pretend to know what I will feel like in 5 years.  I was with a friend yesterday who was telling me all her plans to renovate her kitchen.  She will never be able to afford those renovations.  My house needs major renovations but I don't even give it a second thought.  I can't afford it.  Oh well, I'll get off of my soapbox!  How do you deal with the future?

DailyEclipse
DailyEclipse
Hi GreenEyes, It's like rearranging furniture for me, or more accurately, downsizing. As I get older, certain aspects and expectations of life no longer apply. I've bought my last new car and no longer need a double car garage. I don't think I can properly take care of getting a new pet, or even afford one. Make sense? Yes, I still have dreams, but I'm thankful that I can still wake each morning with a feeling of hope with all the things I have and enjoy.

Thanks for sharing! Have a great Sunday!!
GreenEyes727
GreenEyes727
Thanks Daily! I understand. I don't decorate for holidays anymore. I remember our elderly neighbor saying she didn't bake anymore and I couldn't understand why but now I understand. I threw my Christmas tree away. I have had my car for 10 years, just had the transmission replaced and am hoping to have it for a very long time. I have a beautiful cat who is 3. He's probably my last pet. He wasn't costing me that much until I put him in the window and he got fleas. I spent so much money on meds and eventually, a vet. The vet cost me $270. Their flea meds worked and I have since spent $84 on more but I don't seem to need it. But I know what you mean. You have a great Sunday too!
billwfriend
billwfriend
so I also live one day at a time.....I run a spontaneous life of spending money here there and never saving for tomorrow....so what does five years from now look like....hopefully I am dead or still at least as healthy as I am now....
GreenEyes727
GreenEyes727
bill, I hope you will still be healthy in 5 years and not dead! You have too much to do! What would your dogs do without you?
serenityspeaks
serenityspeaks
I always have goals and dreams. But I am able to deal with changing directions. If I didn’t have goals I wouldn’t have my job and had finished some school and lord it be a mess for me in this economy. I don’t get as worked up about changes though as most which I assume just cause of all my hard times.
GreenEyes727
GreenEyes727
That's good serenity!
guitarman79
guitarman79
i live one-day-at-a-time,

I have hobbies/interest's. Don't have any long-term dream's,

Last week, I just came back from a whole summer at the shore! (which I have been doing for the last 15 Year's) So, I guess I'm "living the dream"

But, never really had any aspirations of love and marriage or anything.......maybe just seeing who's out there, but nothing serious.

I have had odd job's also, But, Because of the nature of my disability, Can not work anymore.......I keep myself busy though, I work out at the gym and I volunteer at a hospital.
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