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letting go

thesunandmoonstone
thesunandmoonstone

I'm having trouble letting go of the things people have done to wrong me, so much that it's consuming my life. Whether it was last week or five years ago, if someone did something to hurt me I verbally attacked them recently. I've been having trouble dealing with stress in my life in general, sometimes I feel like I can't talk to my boyfriend because my negative emotions overwhelm him, so I feel myself growing distant, and afraid to show my emotions. I'm really lonely and everyone has turned their backs on me. On top of that I've been having severe insomnia, I've gotten very little sleep and had very long days at work. I don't normally post like this but I can't sleep and I don't have anyone I can really turn to.

Gladdmatt
Gladdmatt
I have lived a lifetime having great difficulty detaching from people who I feel have wronged me. In addition to not being able to sleep. this makes me bite my fingers for some reason. I take pleasure in the thought of bad things happening to these people, which bothers me because I want to be a good person. My meds and talk therapy help a lot, as does my relatively recent knowledge that this is part of my OCD and PTSD. If this makes sense, knowing I can't help it makes me beat myself up less, so I feel better so I obsess less. I'm also into prayer; don't know if that's your thing. But I hate it when I do this kind of obsessing, and please know you are not alone.
np1129
np1129
I also have an extremely hard time with letting things go. It is a terrible burden and it truly does consume your life. I have also verbally attacked people when I feel like I have been wronged and it is satisfying in the moment, but at the end of the day I want to be a good person and then that feeling of being nasty to someone else haunts me. It's a terrible cycle. Lately, I have started to meditate. I just youtube simple meditation exercises and I really think that it helps. I also find peace in prayer. Therapy has also been helpful in the past. I hope this helps you.
TeCHer
TeCHer
You can't be human and not have instances where you have to forgive someone. I, like everyone else, have experience great pain at the hands of others. My mother committed suicide with me in the house as a teenager, my father made a pass at me as young teenager, my husband has had an affair (long story-we're still together). I have done a lot of soul searching to overcome these and other life abuses. Forgiveness and letting go is the only answer to true freedom. Both are choices. They are completely necessary for you to restore peace to your soul. I've done the hard work more than once to forgive-and to let go. It is possible. It begins with a choice. It is a daily act of choosing to "push" negative thoughts and remembrances from your mind. May you find your way to forgiveness and be set free to live live fully. Praying for you after I post. Choose life.