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SeekingKnowledge
Dear Doug:
First of all, I just want to thank you for providing such a wonderful site for people to access and share with one another whatever life struggles brings them. I'm glad I stumbled upon it while doing a search on depression support. I have found that alot of people are in the same boat as I am, and it's quite comforting to be able to discuss such a topic with people who understand.
I have been on this board for roughly 3 weeks. I have noticed that there is a certain individual who portrays himself as several characters and who feels the need to post negative things regarding people. I was always taught that if you have nothing nice to say, don't say anything at all.
I don't like to get involved in heated debates/bashing sessions. Two years ago I would never have dreamed writing this letter, nor would I dream of speaking my mind to the naysayer on this site. I've always been one who would never "rock the boat" or speak her mind on something that bothered me or I felt strongly about. But, I have grown.
I also want to say that it's quite unfortunate that one person has the right to get away with harrassing, terrorizing and placing fear to people on this site. It amazes me what this person is able to get away with. There are others who are not allowed to acknowledge him whatsoever, yet he has a right to speak about them. I will refer to the post that was made last night, that was deleted. At this point, I'm going to lay it all on the line, and if I'm banned for saying what I think, then so be it.
How is it fair that Lucifer can make comments about the "old ladies" and comments that Caine is disguised as Robyn? Yet Robyn, NancyJ, and others are told to keep their mouths shut? How is that really fair? And let me ask you, why is it fair that people are allowed to be afraid of this person and terrorized, yet he gets a slap on the wrist?
In case you haven't noticed the trend here, people are upset, are leaving DS because of ONE PERSON. This doesn't make sense to me. I voiced my opinion on a thread about Lucifer or Saccawhoever his name is that if he was truly seeking help he was going about it the wrong way. Yet he said I was a "mud slinger"....how is that so? He has the right to intimidate people and get away without paying a price. Yet others are told to not rock the boat.
And why is it that he is protected? Because he claims to have a personality disorder, therefore he has a disability? How about the people who come here that are depressed and are seeking help and get harrassed by Lucifer, Sacca whoever and all his other names he uses? Do they not have a disability as well? Yet you allow him to get away with it. I just don't get it.
He has put fear into me about being able to share what I'm struggling with. His comment about being a friend on my page terrified me. I now feel I have to question who someone is that is trying to reach out to me, in fear of him sucking me into his twisted world. I feel as if he uses us as a form of entertainment, and I for one, and I don't believe I'm alone, don't appreciate it.
I know that there are many others on here who feel the same way as I do, yet are afraid to say anything in fear of being banned. They rely on this site to help them with their struggles. I truly believe that this site has been a saviour for many people - including myself. And I truly believe it is wonderful. But I also believe that you are allowing one person bully a bunch of people who are just trying to reach out and seek help from fellow sufferers - and that's such a shame.
I hope you do read the posts/threads, and see that people have offered suggestions regarding banning ISP addresses,instead of just the profile. I think that would nip that in the bud. I mean Lucifer has even daunted you by saying he could care less if he gets banned, because he can easily create another profile, no biggie to him. Yet others are threatned for fighting back and defending themselves.
I hope you take what I've said into consideration. I did send an abuse report earlier this morning, and never received a response. I'm sure you have a million fires to put out, but I think that this has become an out of control bonfire that really needs to be attended to.
I welcome any and all comments to this post. I sincerely hope that people will stay on DS and not be driven away out of fear or being terrorized. I really considered it today, but said no, I will not live in fear. I will ask for help from the higher powers that be on this website on behalf of others on here who are afraid to speak out...and myself.
Sincerely,
Seeking Knowledge
First of all, I just want to thank you for providing such a wonderful site for people to access and share with one another whatever life struggles brings them. I'm glad I stumbled upon it while doing a search on depression support. I have found that alot of people are in the same boat as I am, and it's quite comforting to be able to discuss such a topic with people who understand.
I have been on this board for roughly 3 weeks. I have noticed that there is a certain individual who portrays himself as several characters and who feels the need to post negative things regarding people. I was always taught that if you have nothing nice to say, don't say anything at all.
I don't like to get involved in heated debates/bashing sessions. Two years ago I would never have dreamed writing this letter, nor would I dream of speaking my mind to the naysayer on this site. I've always been one who would never "rock the boat" or speak her mind on something that bothered me or I felt strongly about. But, I have grown.
I also want to say that it's quite unfortunate that one person has the right to get away with harrassing, terrorizing and placing fear to people on this site. It amazes me what this person is able to get away with. There are others who are not allowed to acknowledge him whatsoever, yet he has a right to speak about them. I will refer to the post that was made last night, that was deleted. At this point, I'm going to lay it all on the line, and if I'm banned for saying what I think, then so be it.
How is it fair that Lucifer can make comments about the "old ladies" and comments that Caine is disguised as Robyn? Yet Robyn, NancyJ, and others are told to keep their mouths shut? How is that really fair? And let me ask you, why is it fair that people are allowed to be afraid of this person and terrorized, yet he gets a slap on the wrist?
In case you haven't noticed the trend here, people are upset, are leaving DS because of ONE PERSON. This doesn't make sense to me. I voiced my opinion on a thread about Lucifer or Saccawhoever his name is that if he was truly seeking help he was going about it the wrong way. Yet he said I was a "mud slinger"....how is that so? He has the right to intimidate people and get away without paying a price. Yet others are told to not rock the boat.
And why is it that he is protected? Because he claims to have a personality disorder, therefore he has a disability? How about the people who come here that are depressed and are seeking help and get harrassed by Lucifer, Sacca whoever and all his other names he uses? Do they not have a disability as well? Yet you allow him to get away with it. I just don't get it.
He has put fear into me about being able to share what I'm struggling with. His comment about being a friend on my page terrified me. I now feel I have to question who someone is that is trying to reach out to me, in fear of him sucking me into his twisted world. I feel as if he uses us as a form of entertainment, and I for one, and I don't believe I'm alone, don't appreciate it.
I know that there are many others on here who feel the same way as I do, yet are afraid to say anything in fear of being banned. They rely on this site to help them with their struggles. I truly believe that this site has been a saviour for many people - including myself. And I truly believe it is wonderful. But I also believe that you are allowing one person bully a bunch of people who are just trying to reach out and seek help from fellow sufferers - and that's such a shame.
I hope you do read the posts/threads, and see that people have offered suggestions regarding banning ISP addresses,instead of just the profile. I think that would nip that in the bud. I mean Lucifer has even daunted you by saying he could care less if he gets banned, because he can easily create another profile, no biggie to him. Yet others are threatned for fighting back and defending themselves.
I hope you take what I've said into consideration. I did send an abuse report earlier this morning, and never received a response. I'm sure you have a million fires to put out, but I think that this has become an out of control bonfire that really needs to be attended to.
I welcome any and all comments to this post. I sincerely hope that people will stay on DS and not be driven away out of fear or being terrorized. I really considered it today, but said no, I will not live in fear. I will ask for help from the higher powers that be on this website on behalf of others on here who are afraid to speak out...and myself.
Sincerely,
Seeking Knowledge
I wish I'd said what you did. You are truly an asset to this website. If something isn't done soon, all Lucifer, Sucky, Joker, whomever, will have nobody to talk to but himself. I used to love this website but anymore, I don't really care whether I sign in or not.
Internet Preditor laws were made for a reason-- To protect the innocent!
Thank you Seeking for your letter to Doug. You are right on.
A friend is someone we turn to
when our spirits need a lift.
A friend is someone we treasure
for our friendship is a gift.
A friend is someone who fills our lives
with beauty, joy, and grace.
And makes the whole world we live in
a better and happier place.
I'm not allowed to defend myself any further. I've been given warning by Doug "to remember our rules as well, and not threaten anyone or get involved in personal attacks." This goes against my spririt. I already hold myself back and know when to turn the other cheek. There are instances though when you have to defend yourself... and I don't back down when that occurs.
In my time on this site, I've admitted for the first time how I've self-harmed and how I've once gone about committing suicide. In the same time on this site, I've found reasons and friends who have kept me from seriously committing suicide on 2 seperate occasions, neither of which I gave warning to or spoke of. I thank this site for being here. As I'm seriously starting to well up, at what point will this site not be able to service people if they are turned off to what occurs here or can't feel comfortable to vocalize?
I'm no saint. I antagonize as well. For the most part I do it out of arrogance to get people to think more openly to the other story they're not accustomed to. However, this has rubbed some people the wrong way and I know for sure it's left me in a poor light with them.
The thing is, I'm okay with that. I'm okay with being the bad guy. I don't seek to be a hero. But my "evil" is nowhere near in comparison to others here who, so well put by Seeking, "uses us as a form of entertainment." That's true malevolence.
Once again, I can't say anything because I will find myself banned from this site. I'm not allowed to be me. I'm also not allowed to be what this site is here for outside of support... to become empowered and self-strong.
I applaud every single person who either posted or feel the same way as the posts I've read. You have all shown your spirit and will to be strong. It's what I know is capable in us all... and you have brought that out from within yourself.
i've read this thread, and i want you to know that we have taken some action here. please continue to forward problems our way.
doug
I'm keeping your black & white shirt ironed and your whistle polished. Thanks for giving this your attention.
i do want to remind everyone that we've got thousands...no, tens of thousands...of kind, wonderful souls who are looking for some form of support and are also kind and giving souls. if there are bad apples, there are also many, many more good people here, and i ask you seek those people out and make them your friends.
(and let us deal with the bad apples. ;) )
doug