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I have been ghosted by a few girls. More than i would like to admit. I have read a few things on why people ghost. They seem to think it make things easier. But I don't think it does. It has an effect on the person being ghosted. I get why you would ghost someone who is being creepy or weird. I thought things were going fine with one of the girls. We planned to have a date when she had a week off from work. Her week off was last week. We went from talking everyday to nothing for a few days. She said her work got really busy and i believed her and I understood. So I thought ok let's talk about our upcoming date. That was the last thing she texted me. I did't message for a few days thinking she was busy. I messaged her a few days later saying i hope everything is ok. I checked her facebook saw that she had 10 new post in the past few days. I was really liking her too. Liked her personality, sense of humor. I feel stupid. I fell for the common excuses. Always busy. I feel like such a loser. I see a couple holding hands, hugging even a simple peck on the cheek. I feel like crying. I can't even get a single date. I keep wondering to myself what's wrong with me. I know i'm not ugly but i sure do feel ugly. Feel like a loser.
Being ghosted by one girl is not fun, but being ghosted by several girls means that it is time for a checkup. Please don’t be offended by this but something attracts them to you until they decide to avoid you. You have to find out what is it in you that triggers this. Again, please do not be offended, I am just trying to help. You need an objective opinion. If you have one friend or one relative who can tell you, seek their counsel. If not, go to a church and talk to a pastor and tell him stories so he can put a finger on what it is. To have friends, you need to be a friend to others first. To start and keep a relationship, she must get something from you that just makes her day such that she cant help but think about you most of the day. Kindness, sweetness, you make her laugh, she feel comfortable with you? It could be anything.
Back when I was dating, there wasn't "ghosting". You either got together or you didn't. Of course, this was back when people actually talked to each other, met in the real world. None of this online FB, Instagram, Twitter hookup, meetup, breakup drama...