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ok so today i found out that wen i was 3 yrs old my cuzin (abuser) started touching me...then i comeplained to my mom and she yelled at him and told him to never do it again.
so it seems to me that yelling didnt work cuz he came back to me wen i was 9 and ended with me at 12...but i kept my mouth shut til i was 16 this year....i have my first therapy session since april on wednesday with my therapist and idk if i should tell her my new discovery..cuz i dont remember anything from before i was 9? but do you think i should be totally honest and tell her?
cuz i 've had the state involved in my life for this matter too and i dont want them in it again, it will cause too much distruction...would she do that? would things happen again if i told her this?
idk? i wish i never heard this new info, cuz now i feel all used up and like i've never had control of me and i feel like i never will....help plz....
p.s if i was 3 he was 9 so it rly isnt a big deal i guess
so it seems to me that yelling didnt work cuz he came back to me wen i was 9 and ended with me at 12...but i kept my mouth shut til i was 16 this year....i have my first therapy session since april on wednesday with my therapist and idk if i should tell her my new discovery..cuz i dont remember anything from before i was 9? but do you think i should be totally honest and tell her?
cuz i 've had the state involved in my life for this matter too and i dont want them in it again, it will cause too much distruction...would she do that? would things happen again if i told her this?
idk? i wish i never heard this new info, cuz now i feel all used up and like i've never had control of me and i feel like i never will....help plz....
p.s if i was 3 he was 9 so it rly isnt a big deal i guess
So, when you were 12, he was 18? I think you should definately come forward. Telling your story is the only way to set you free.
my parents know about the abuse from 9-12 but my mom makes every escuse in the book for him and my dad idk he said that i wanted it. :( im soooo alonee! but wen me and my mom wer having a convo about therapy and her asying its pointless or watever it was a kid thing she brought up how i never told her and thats wen she told me wen u were three u told me that he was touching ur down there and ur other cuzin's too. (her mom moved her far away)
psych and mom: thank you! i really need a tight physical hug and someone to tell me everything is gonna be ok
"do you think they will start something up again with this new thing?"
If they think anyone is in danger or a prosecutable crime has been committed, they probably will.
By that I mean some crimes have statute of limitations and even though the crime is known to have happened, no prosecution is possible. What happened to you may or may not even have a statute of limitations .. depends on what State you live in.
The thing is, you should tell your therapist if you were violated as a minor (or even as an adult) or they cannot help you as well with the reasons you have for seeing a therapist in the first place.
anyways i don't think it has made much of a difference to my life that i know of. maybe it does have some unconscious effect over me.. maybe it doesn't. i don't think much abt it anyway. the truth is, i've never even told anybody abt this bfore, until now in this comment.
i'm sorry i'm not in a position to offer you any advice. my question is, can you tell me how you think it has affected you and your attitudes? what does your psych tell you abt this? how does having a skeleton like this in my closet affect my life?