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Luna113
Luna113

Hi. I just need to know I'm not nuts right now. I live with my grandma and she has severe emotional problems. I 've dealt with it most of my life and it's just that right now I have no family support.


I have really bad anxiety myself and I've asked her many times to please not bombard me with bad news first thing in the morning. Because it's really, really triggering. So yesterday she did it again and I told her I was very frustrated because I've asked her many times not to. Today she's stomping around the house telling me how much I hurt her feelings. Except I didn't! I told her what the problem was and that it was hurting me that she kept doing it anyway. But she's the one sulking around, acting all hurt, and it's my fault somehow.


I know this isn't logical and I'm being gaslit so hard I could solve the energy crisis, but....I could just really use some reassurance :( Thanks

Luna113
Luna113
I should clarify the the bad news can be literally anything. She loves to watch the news and tell me all the awful things happening in the world. It's not like something is happening to US and I can deal with it. It's always something I have zero control over and I could have had a perfectly happy day without knowing about it. I don't watch the news much for just that reason.
Tired
Tired
Your not crazy. Have you tried journaling. It gets your frustrations out.
Maybe try meditation.
sharaninmd
sharaninmd
I believe that you are not crazy. Do you have a therapist who you can talk to about your depression and anxiety? I am not making an excuse for your grandmother because I think she should respect your request not to do this. Elderly people tend to get set in their ways and no not handle change very well. Continue to post on this site where you will make friends who are ready to listen and offer support.
PeteMason
PeteMason
I agree with the previous two comments, you are not crazy. I think the difference between you and your gran is you are more an optimist whereas she is a pessimist so I think it a wise move on your behalf to continue making your stand with her. With regards to your own health a plan now maybe is required, best provided with professional assistance. Living with a sick person over time will eventually make you sick as you are now probably becoming aware of.
JeanCarlin
JeanCarlin
I agree you should either talk to someone or start a journal, it could help, unfortunately your gran probably won't change but maybe try once more to talk to her about it and let her know that you don;t want to hear all the bad news in the world, I'm like you, I don;t want to know it either.
Good luck!!
accumulates
accumulates
I'm very high anxiety and I grew up with high anxiety parents, so I know how the anxiety can build up. But, there are ways to get past it, the anxiety goes up and down, and there will be lots of good moments.

You can also do a google search for "good news". There is a goodnewsnetwork.org but careful because a year ago I got a virus from there, but I think the site cleaned it out since then.
DryEyes90
DryEyes90
You are doing great! Just keep moving forward and don't allow a second to late hours. If you run into a speed bump it is OK to slow down before getting over it but you don't stop!

See I have these happen and sometimes it can be a day full or just one time attack! You are in control of what you want to think about and I have learned that sometimes Ill just put that shit on hold till I find a way to deal! Go about looking up some inspirational quotes! To get my day on track! The internet is awesome for that!
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