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Peke
Peke

I'm a 28 yo female, im good looking, highly educated and cultured person, but people just seems to dislike me for whom I am, I also seem to fail at everything. I'm really tired of myself, I have hate myself all my life, being in therapy, multiple medication, nothings seems to help for more than a few days. I got divorced few months ago from a very abusive man who called me crazy and irrational all the time because I didn't want to do crystal meth or keep supporting him. I moved across the country to open my new business but im so scared im.going to fail, I tried online dating and it was even worst, people there made me feel.like garbage. I very luky i got 2 friends, but they are busy whit their careers ans relationships. 


I never thought I would find myself at 28 lonely, divorce, living out of my parents, just sad all the time... if it was not for my parents I would have kill myself long ago, I have fail to see the bright side of life, even tho I know im.lucky to have amazing parents and economic security.... and whit all is going on, I really don't want to keep going, I haven't been living during all my life, I been scrambling ans surviving thru my feelings... I sorry I know I sound like a breath wining but its how I have felt of my life and always failed to express it because people just point how easy my life has been (having loving parents ans financial support) 


Sorry for the ranting, but I guess annonimitt gives the relive to say what is in out minds and as sad as it is, I know plenty of people feel the same.



Sorry for the spelling. I'm dyslexic ans fail to see some.obvious mistakes 

peterthegreat
peterthegreat
I am living with my parent and using their finacial support too. You have to be indepentent is just a cultural thinking in the US. I like to be indepentent too. Because sometimes my parent are anyoning. But we have a medical condition. We are not like most people. We need support. That include finacinal.
For you love life. You can try going to the dating services or finding a dating coach. That would help. You can friend me.
Peke
Peke
Thank you Peter the great. Im still.holding a job but it doesn't pay all the bills, and im Latin so its even more pressure, im supposed to have my life figured out by 24.
I also think I have a terrible fear of failure that keep me from even trying sometimes. But you are right we often forget depression is a medical issue and treat ourselves terribly.
I've try dating apps, made everything worst, maybe I don't want to be with anyone, Is just the fact that feel like I'm unlikable that hits me the hardest. Like something is wrong with me in such a deep level that it doesn't matter how much effort I put on looking good or educating myself or.making myself cultured, people still dislikes me.
GirlinCalif
GirlinCalif
Thank you for sharing your story! You sound like a wonderful person. It took a lot of guts to leave that abusive marriage, good for you! I doubt anyone in your family would look down on you for being 28 and single again. You *were* married. I didn't even start looking for a serious relationship until I was 29! I was just out having fun in my 20s. So, don't let the age thing bug you. I don't think your family is even thinking about that.

It's hard right now with all the lock downs, but how about calling up one of those friends, and chatting, make plans to get together soon for lunch, coffee or a drink (if you drink)?

Also, if you find yourself depressed often, try again with therapy and a psychiatrist who can prescribe a different medication. So many medications out there, and they all work differently.

Finally, write in a private journal, every night if you can. It helps to sort out your thoughts and feelings. Makes depression and anxiety less.

Welcome to the site and we're glad you're here!
Scott46
Scott46
Pete: I'm sorry about your situation. You were 100% right to leave an abusive drug addict husband. I'm not dyslexic but I can relate to much of the rest of what you said. I can certainly relate to not living but just existing. But you have no reason to hate yourself. And I don't think others hate you either. I think we give off vibes and body language that tells others how we view ourselves. If we don't like ourselves, they pick up on it and follow suit. That on-line dating can be brutal. Lots of a-hole guys out there making lewd remarks. Don't take anything personally that happened on a dating site. You are in shape to date right now anyway. You need to climb out of this dark place you've been in for so long. Is there a way you can see a therapist? If not, someone here posted about this 7cups.com site where you can talk to a pro on-line.
Pete, 28 is still very young. You have time. And welcome to this site.
Scaredandafraid
Scaredandafraid
Things happen in life that set us back. All we can do is brush ourselves off and keep moving forward. You are not a failure. Things don't work out for a reason an those are called lessons. Learn from those mistakes and do better next time. And you not alone. You have a whole site here of people who care and will listen
dragon97
dragon97
Hey, hope you're well. I definitely agree with everything that's been written here, I think that ultimately the best way to make long-term change is through therapy, medication, and life-style changes. I think you really have to go easier on yourself, it's crazy that we have the expectations that everyone achieve perfect life goals by 25 or else you're rotten, like that's dumb and toxic and drives more than a few people in my age group (21) to self-harm, self-medication and worse. Please know that whatever your life is, it's okay, long term satisfaction isn't always tied to your exact achievement of certain goals. Sustainable happiness has more to do with how well you can manage your life and seek support in that. Like GirlinCalif mentioned, the best option is always to phone a friend, literally every time.

I know that it sounds like infomercial garbage, but progressing towards inner peace will make you a lot more resilient in situations like this. For me, that's daily gratitude exercises, meditation, affirmations, calling friends, journaling, reading mental health books, talking to people on here, utilizing real life support groups, therapy, and taking care of health. Obviously, you'd know what's best, but I think that you can't tie your well-being to your achievements so much, I still live at home and haven't done much yet, but I still try to appreciate myself as a whole, useful human being. Hope it helps, good luck.
Flashreturns
Flashreturns
You are so young.. I remember feeling that way in my 20s. My career was in the dumps late 20s but it turned around. It will turn around for you too.
Don't get hung up about the divorce. Many people stay married and are desperately unhappy.
Thank God you had no children.
I think you should concentrate on therapy not dating. You need space
TheRedSeaScrolls
TheRedSeaScrolls
Peke. Hope things are going better for you. A couple observations. You've gone through a rough time with a divorce, trying to open a business while trying to make some friends and a few dates. That's alot to handle. But you have time on your side. You don't have to do it all at once. Give yourself some time to relax daily, focus on you and what you want to accomplish this year, some goals. If you don't hit all of them, so be it. Failure is not necessarily a bad thing, often times it can lead to better things down the road. If you got supportive parents and the means to do so, don't be ashamed of that. Take that opportunity to make your life better, and you'll probably help others in the end because of it.
JMJ2020
JMJ2020
It seems like you're taking on quite a bit all by yourself. Leaning on family is something we all need to do occasionally. Try to be gentle with yourself.
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