Depression Support Group

Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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Friend19 05/19/2015

I wont even ask how to make friends...I know how. I try over and over again, and it never works. I hate my life. I hate being alone all the time. I try to communicate my feelings, but I'm often in a situation where there is literally NO one around to even do that. So I write them down in a journal,or I try to distract my shitty feelings by playing a video game, or plunging into work duties...But I'm so SICK of it. I cannot tolerate being lonely anymore. I see my boyfriend going out with his friends, and them constantly calling. He says he understands, but no he doesn't. How can he? I go days without human contact...I feel so isolated. And I try so hard to break out of it. I try to reach out and make friends...But it never works. And I can't spend every waking moment with my boyfriend, or the only person I have left is going to leave me...I feel helpless. I just want someone to call me on the phone...Or a chat online...I used to have a few online friends, but over time I've even lost those... I feel like no one knows my name, or that I exist...I could die or be taken and no one would even notice my absence.

Thank you for listening,
HUGS

coolgal67 05/19/2015

Thinking of you and glad you came here to share.

enigmaticloner 05/19/2015

I'm sorry to hear that, but I can relate quite well. It's very hard to find friends sometimes especially good ones, and it's just ridiculous trying to keep them. Loneliness really hurts and not having many friends or a boyfriend/girlfriend or much family to talk to about things is even worse. Most of my friends I've met online and most of those friendships are no longer there...

Misssy2 05/19/2015

Are you able to go to college? Can meet friends there.
How about (I did this once) looking up on line...some key words - local friends group...etc..any word you can think of.

I did this years ago after a break up and I found that there was a group...(I don't remember what I "searched".) but I found a group...that I joined...in Rhode Island...and what they did was they posted different events they were doing..dances, hiking, golfing, rafting...and if I wanted to attend any....all I had to do was pay the fee for the day (it was reasonable) and meet up.

Actually I think it was called Meet up in Rhode Island. So type in Meet up groups...or something for your area.

I never went because instead..I joined a dating site and met a guy..LOL..

But I was interested in it...and it perked my mood.

I remember being that lonely...and sometimes I still am because I have limited my life to just myself and my boyfriend.

nooneshopeless 05/20/2015

I've given up on making the kinds of friends you mentioned, who call on the phone and stuff. It's very hard once you leave high school and college. At least in my area, other women seem like all they care about is finding a man or if they have one, just want to spend all their time with him or their family. People seem like they don't want new friends.

It helped me to join social groups where I'm at least seeing the same people, and got me out of the house so I could make my ex-boyfriend feel like he wasn't my entire social life, too. Meet up.com was good for that and AA...I don't follow that program but al-anon and AA were social groups that at least got me out of the house, and meeting people.

Try to go out without the intension of "making real friends" so you don't end up too disappointed and just enjoy the social aspect for what it is. Who knows, a friendship might develop after a while, but I found it best to just exert myself and enjoy the social events for their own sake, not with a goal of making good friends (.....I don't go out anymore since I moved an hour away to a small town with my parents)

Friend19 05/20/2015

Misssy2- I miss college for that reason. Even as a loner I managed to make a few friends. I graduated back in 08 tho. I have also attempted the online meetup thing and I've had enough bad expediences to ever try again.

As a part business owner, my schedule really does create a major problem with clubs and stuff. I really wanted to join a D&D group at the local hobby shop, but every meet time was within my work hours. I don't get off work till around 8-830 at night mon-friday. If I'm not at work, the business is closed.

I'm on my feet all day, the idea of a gym sounds like hell...I'm aware I have a excuse for everything :(

Thank you everyone,
HUGS

gordos4 05/20/2015

Friend, I would care, & I can guarantee you, a lot of people would miss you. As for the isolation, I can relate to that. It's hard to make friends, because most people aren't depressed to the extent that they isolate themselves. After being hurt so many times, it's hard to trust anyone. Most people don't want to deal with a major depressed person. You can come here anytime to talk, we understand TOTALLY & wont judge you. ((hugs))

gramybear 05/20/2015

You still have friends here on DS, and you always will. Are you also in the Loneliness site? I would advise joining that group of wonderful people too. Please don't ever think you are by yourself and that you don't have friends. Pmessage me any time you want to talk. Hugs GB

chelleleigh72 05/20/2015

Friend19 I am sorry to hear about your situation. Please know that we are here for you at DS anytime you need us. You can message me anytime as well. When my depression gets really bad I tend to isolate myself from my friends and family so I understand the loneliness aspect from that point . Gentle hugs and prayers to you.

whatswrong19 05/21/2015

For me it seems, the more people are around me, the more isolated I feel, as they are usually more like thornbushes than someone you want to be friends with. it's like they carry their own issues, I carry mine and I just can't seem to get interested in hanging around them. Everyone else around me is talking and laughing, I rarely laugh, I smile when I must. My humor is more dark, and I laugh at what most would consider horrible or twisted. Thus I too feel isolated, even though I'm surrounded by people. It's about trust, and that is not something you can give to people, not most people anyway, unless they are good parents, or something.

WanderingVet 05/21/2015

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