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DebOne 02/27/2009

We are both retired and I watch Food Network and make him new and tasty dinners but he seems to want very plain food prepared by himself.

deleted_user 02/27/2009

not sure if control or not,but sometime i make big meal and my family would rather have a grill cheese made by dad.

deleted_user 02/27/2009

maybe... maybe not... depends on if he is spiteful about it. Maybe he just wants to eat simple bland foods or his tummy can't handle some of those tasty new dishes and he's just fixing it himself so as not to trouble you or deny you your own food preferances?

Marigolds 02/27/2009

It doesn't sound like a control issue to me...unless he is rude or insulting about your cooking. Some people prefer plain simple meals...especially if the have digestive problems of some kind

deleted_user 02/27/2009

Hi.....it is hard to say if this is a control issue. Maybe he just prefers plain food....are there other area that you feel he is controlling...or just with food? x

ThePepperMan 02/27/2009

It looks like a control issue to me. You want him to eat new and fancy, he wants to eat bland and familiar. Why make him choose? You can make smaller portions for you, and a taste for him. Or make enough for the two of you, and if he does not like it, then you have left overs.

If he "always rejects it" then keep making new stuff, and call the food that he does not eat "Planned Overs"!

meandthebeast 02/27/2009

I would be happy if I didnt have to cook for someone. Just make stuff for yourself and let him eat the plain stuff.

WanderingVet 02/27/2009

Based on your info . yes, .. he wants to control what he eats and you want to make him "new and tasty dinners". Sounds like a (minor) conflict of who is controlling what he eats.

Not all control issues are bad .. unless they go unresolved.

DebOne 02/27/2009

Thanks everyone for your replies. I guess I will eliminate chicken parmesian and things with sauces and just put a sprinkle of Lawrys seasoned salt on everything like he likes it.

deleted_user 02/27/2009

I always thought of control as him (or her) forcing YOU to make or do what they want. If he choses to make himself something else, so be it.

deleted_user 02/27/2009

I like food that is not very complicated and all the ingredients are easy to identify. I do not need mango chutney to enjoy a pork chop.
Could your husband be the same?

DebOne 03/08/2009

I think because he is so controlling in other aspects of my life that I thought this also was a control factor when as you say it's just a matter of taste. Can't thank you guys enough for listening and giving such good advise.

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