i would say listen to your grandma, work on yourself, in time you will be ready if its what you truly desire. then ask her again :)

Is kind of difficult to answer your question, not knowing much about you. But in short, yes. Raising children is a tough job, though also very gratifying.

I love my children more than anything in life, but I also had my first at twenty.....which is so very young, but in many respects I feel that he saved my life.

I also worry that I may pass along my defective genes (for lack of a better term). I also fear my children growing up in a world that seems to be going to hell in a hand basket. Sometimes I regret having children at all, and had I waited until I was older (and considerably wiser) I'd probably have opted to stay child-less.

Meh... I'm rambling.

If you're depression gets so severe that at times you cannot function, may be best to wait until you are mentally capable of handling it. I don't know though.... for some, being a parent is what gives them the drive to live better.

Good luck to you :)

Parenthood is difficult, even without the burden of depression. I raised my child anyway. It is not something to jump into lightly.

It's hard for a completely healthy person to raise a baby/child.

Not impossible for those with disabilities or conditions, but some extra help might be needed.

peace to you~

I don't have kids so am coming from a place of pure common sense...

1st pregnancy in general throws you hormones into chaos so if you think you are having trouble now just wait until you have no control... + I would think you would probably be at a higher risk for postpartum depression too.. and if you are on meds that is another issue... many you can't take while pregnant without risking the baby...

now picture this... you are tired, depressed and you have this tiny thing that never shuts up and all it does is want want want... once you have a kid you have to put them 1st... now that means if you are feeling down you have to just suck it up and put their needs 1st... so yes having a child is hard... and if you want to be a good parent then you should make sure you are in the best possible place emotionally and financially before you bring your child into the world... not just decide you want one now because you do because that is a selfish choice.

Thanks for everybody opinion. I think it is best for me not to have a child ever. My depression is unpredictable. I get depressed all of the time. I know if I have a child I can't take it back when I am depressed. I'm on medications that is helping somewhat. I'm taking Pristiq and Geodon.

YES its so hard, i was a nanny for a year and that was the hardest job i ever did. I have depression too but i know that one day (not anytime soon) i will have a child. I need to work on myself and get that all straight so that i can enjoy raising a baby and give off joy to that child....rather then feeliing down and way overwhelmed. my mom has also gone through several bouts of depression but she is the strongest and best mother anyone could ask for so YES people with depression can be awesome mothers. Just while you have to chance to heal and get things strights i would before even thinkin about kiddies

Kids and depression...don't mix....Work on yourself and then maybe....but til' then ...I would hold off....Kids are hard to raise when you are depressed...I have none of my own,but I do raise and take care of my youngest nephew when he is here.....Big ((((((((((HUGS))))))))))

No way on earth I could raise my boy if I didn't have his Mom around. Honest. I would do it, don't get me wrong, just saying I have enough to do keeping my Own diapers changed.

its easy if u dont mind never sleeping, never having any money or free time. always giving never receiving. being 24 hr day nanny/cleaner/ nurse etc. :)
seriously yes its hardest job in world (and i only have one) but i also think it saved my life. i swear i would have committed suicide without having child cos when i had her i knew that i had to stop being so selfish and that this person depended on me==to be alive and responsible etc. so it actually helped me. shes 14 now and so doesnt need me all time but still helps cos i dont give in to depression as long as i have her. yes i get depressed still but no longer have luxury of taking to my bed for days on end and stuff. life HAS to go on when u have kid so if u cant imagine doing that then no---ur far from ready

you can prob. in couple of years...set a goal for yourself, like have a baby in 2 years...this way you can get a hold of the depression..but you sound like you have your other stuff in order...like work, etc. yes, tho when u have a baby it's truly exhausting and you never have a minute to yourself. it's really hard & not fun. i have four children. would i do it again...probably not. i love my children deeply, but gosh, what a price to pay, u give up your life.

Let me share with you my thoughts on parenting:

My Dad told me, "You never stop being a parent. There are no sick days and you always have to stand tall."

This from a southern gentleman who raised 2 daughters alone in the 60's and beyond. He proved to be right!! As always.

Being a parent has been a great challenge, reward. I love my kids so much it hurts often. I'm at the phase now, wanting grandchildren someday.

My Grandma told me to be patient on all topics. I miss her. Very wise advice.

So, hang tough, you will know when the time is right. Single parenting is really hard. When you are in a lifelong relationship and have the man to help you hold down the commitment, might be the best time to have children.

I agree with the others, wait a few years and than ask yourself again. I am bipolar/depression prone and I have two children, it is NOT easy. Mine are now older but it wasn't easy raising them! It is a 24/7, sleep depriving, money draining, stressful, rewarding, Love filled job that one can have. Ask yourself again in a couple of years.

My children helped with my depression. I would not limit yourself because you suffer from depression.

I don't really want to throw in a big downer reply, but just in case this is what you choose, at least you'll know you aren't alone.

I am so effed up, I decided years ago that I would never have kids. Adopt...maybe. After I can look back and have several "normal" years behind me. Not a moment before.

I won't subject an innocent child to...me. Also, there is an incredible amount of disease that runs in my family, most of it proven to be genetic. No way. A lot of these cycles, they stop with me.

That's just me, though. I know people who have quit drugs, quit (excessive) drinking, quit committing crimes, all for their kids. So it goes both ways.

Best of luck on whatever you choose, it's a big decision.