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Is being self centered/obsessed bad nowadays?

ViralLad
ViralLad
I think from now on I want to become self centered...no more extreme forgiving and kind guy because I have been used me a lot

Why is being self-centered a bad thing? I mean i'm self-centered and I could care less, I mean the people in this world could give two craps about you anyway, so why not love and put yourself on a pedestal because no one else will.

Correct me if I am wrong you lost trust to the world because people care about themselves which makes them self centered so why not join the club....I think I can trust myself more than anyone...

I dont mean to start using people around but I will start not caring other peoples problem because they never cared about mines (not referring people from DS btw XP because I am starting to believe that the majority of the users in here are programs lol cuz you can hardly find that much caring people in this planet)
deleted_user
deleted_user
I do agree that we should be more self-centered. But this does not exclude being good to people, care about them. Just we need to remember that our good being is more important.

I put myself often in the situation when I try to fulfill somebody's else expectations. Often this brings me nothing and causes a lot of stress. I am trying to avoid it to reduce stress.
ViralLad
ViralLad
thanks god someone agrees in some sort of ways...thank you manydreams
deleted_user
deleted_user
You are not alone in feeling like that. I have to wonder if it would make life better but since I'm trying to make my marriage work I can't take a me first attitude. No matter how much I want to I have to think how I'm affecting my husband. You're also not alone in thinking many people on DS are automated it's both awesome and creepy how nice people are hear. I wish I could find this much kindness in the non-virtual world.
gordos4
gordos4
If you can do this & still like yourself, go for it..I have been more protective of myself lately, & it makes me feel a little better!
charliegirl29
charliegirl29
I just try to be a good judge of character. Sometimes I am wrong about people but a lot of times I am dead on about my assessments. But I like to get to know people before I really can know their character. It's quite easy to see who is not trust worthy and sometimes you run into a pro. It's important to be able to trust yourself and your instincts. This is how you are ultimately able to put trust in others:-). Everyone is selfish to a point. Don't lose sight of your kindness.....it sets you apart from those who don't have a care.....its just important to learn who really cares for you in my opinion. The rest can go and keep fucking each other over :-).