Hello invisible,
we are all dreamers at some point in our lives,on here your family,and your definitely somebody to me!,have a blessed day my friend,
Hugs,
Scott

We all dream what we want and how life will bee included. Its frustrating when life don't go the way we expected. I know I deal with this and dissapointment as I get older. But often for whatever our life went another way and we can still work toward certain goals and make changes. Thats what I try to do.

You are something. Maybe not what you envisioned or hoped. But you are here you are breathing and you are cared about. I know its not the same of course. But believe me it is something.

You said you didn't get your dreams and that is a hard thing to deal with. I wanted to share my thoughts. They may seem dumb but ....

I have accomplished almost all of my dreams I have done many things on my "bucket list". I am lost and sometimes feel like nothing too. In fact because I have done so much sometimes I feel like I could just die and what would it matter. What is there left to do? Sometimes getting what you want isn't the answer either...

No matter how old you are or what you have gone through you can start dreaming again anytime you want. My mom went back to college when she was 65. My MIL at 63 started a cleaning business and sometimes makes $500.00 a day.

Don't know if any of that helped or not. It was just the thoughts that came into my head. I hope you will take a moment to love yourself (yes really hard I know) and to think on what you might be able to dream even if its just a tiny daydream of good.

Yes, age, hard life experiences, stress, lack of motivation and other factors have a way of dashing dreams. I wanted to be a great filmmaker, the next Steven Spielberg. Then, after graduating high school, II didn't want any of it, and simply wanted to retire, relax, crash, and couldn't, of course. My mother would have no dead-beats laying around the house. She said "you either go to college or work full-time". I did both. To be fair to myself, I was a workaholic from age 10-18! I learned everything about the filmmaking craft during that time. Now I kinda am in the filmmaker, in the sense that I get paid to practice my filmmaking craft videoing people's weddings and family events, kind of "movies on the fly". But it's not movies.

I think I realized movies are, after all, about storytelling, and I failed as a screenwriter. OK, so my talent is more directorial and visual, the cinematography. To quote Clint Eastwood in the Dirty Harry movie, Magnum Force: "A man's got to know his limiations".

You may not have achieved those original dreams, but you can always morph and warp them into NEW dreams, that may be different from what you had in mind, but are infinitely more deep and fulfilling.

As far as being married, there are so many people who are UNHAPPILY married that you may have to count your blessings! Marriage, like anything else great, takes work. So many couples rest on each other's laurels and get lazy.

Maybe you could WORK in a pet store (or animal shelter)! It could lead to other things! Even though it doesn't pay as much as being a vet or owning the pet store, you've got to be around what you love.

The fact that you are TALKING about your dreams means that you are keeping your dreams alive, and that is good. Keep talking about that which you love!

Sweetheart, any day; any moment you choose, you can make a new dream, and start your life over from that point. When someone told me that, I thought they were full of beans. But it planted a seed, and on a magical day, my dream showed itself to me, and I got busy.

And it was not easy, and it took a long time. But today, I am living an even better life than I dreamed. I learned a lot from this DS family; this community of healing healers.

That shame you are talking about was put on you. You did not bring that up out of yourself. It comes down to this: IN life, there are lots of voices telling you things. Why not choose to listen and act on the ones that tell you the GOOD things; the ones that are for your highest good?

Huggz 4 U!!!!

dont lose your dreams. Even if there way out there. Dont give up.

To quote another movie: "When you give up your dream, you die." -Michael Nouri, Flashdance

Or, if you DO give up one dream, form another, in your mind and heart, then, as Bob said, get busy on making it a reality, one small step at a time. Do SOMETHING.